Give a former WUSS a second chance to impress you? Let's say you were interested in him at first, he asked you out, the date was a disaster and he got pissed at you for dumping him for that reason. And to top it off, you two started out as friends/aquaintances. Would you ever give him a second chance, if he has learned his lesson and changed his ways? What if he turns out to be the opposite of what he was before? Would you ever want to be JUST FRIENDS with him again?
Objective and unbiased opinions please.
2006-07-23 10:26:58 · 27 answers · asked by 1/6,833,020,409 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, listen. I'm getting really tired of this. I'M A GUY. And I'm looking for OPINIONS on this type of situation, not ADVICE. Negative or positive, it doesn't matter. Just as long as they're OPINIONS. No offense, but I RARELY seek advice from strangers I've never met before.
2006-07-23 11:22:12 · update #1
I would give him a second chance because one date is no big deal... you cannot know a person from one date. There are many people who just don't really know what to do on a date and they blow it.
Moreover, when a guy really likes you, he may be so impressed that he is there dating YOU, that he may be totally predestined to blow it - for me this is not a turn-off, it means that he was really emotionally involved in it - on the contrary, it is a good point.
If I like him, I would definitely give him another chance and wait patiently to see what happens.
I have had so many disastrous dates with guys who actually blew it only cause they were nervous over it - they really liked me and they were trying to make everything so perfect that they actually blew it, due to this!!!
Courage.
2006-07-23 22:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No do not give the WUSS a second chance. You stated you Guys started out as friends. A true friend does not get pissed if you have differences. You asked what if he learned his lesson, Maybe so, but it does not mean he will change his ways. Because he is pissed, do not start second guessing yourself thinking it's your fault. If you do decide to give him a second chance keep him at arms distance. You have a lot of what if"s! Look at it this way. What if you had sex with this Man, it was not as good as the both of you would like it to have been, he get's pissed, makes up some kind of reason for leaving, how would you feel then? Remember a Man would put that charm on you to get back in your good graces. Listen Lady, Life is too precious to be caring about how someone who is not in your heart feels about you. Be strong! Remember, A problem always looks better walking away!
2006-07-23 18:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had a right to be pissed off at her for dumping you just because the date went horrible. It shows her lack of interest in you. She was obviously looking for reasons to get away from you. Someone who is interested will always give you a second chance no matter how horrible the date went. Honesly, I would give him a second chance ONLY if I was interested in him to begin with!
2006-07-23 18:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give a former ( and hopefully reformed Wuss ) a second chance, if he was truly sorry for his actions. Friendship can be reclaimed ,but you may have to work at it. Get that done first, then try to establish an opportunity for another chance. And if you get it, do whatever it takes to NOT screw it up again !!!
2006-07-23 17:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by parkmaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I would. If he has proved to me that he is sorry for whatever had happened and he had changed his ways and can prove it , then yes, I would. I was friends to start with , which means I evidentally value that person and have some type of feelings for them. So a second chance would be fair.
2006-07-23 17:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think I would. You only get one chance to make a first impression in this world...and if you blow it, you blow it. The only thing good is that you've learned a lesson for the next time an opportunity comes along. That is what makes us grow.
2006-07-23 17:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship crashed recently then no. If it has been about 10 years yes he has probably changed and I would give him a second chance.
If he is habitually an idiot no I would not want to keep him as a friend.
Are you trying to talk yourself into what you know to be a bad situation? Better think about it long and hard.
G.G.
2006-07-23 17:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a gal, but I'd say no. But FYI...in order for her to "dump" you, you would have to be her boyfriend. Right? Well one, two, three, or even four dates does not make your her boyfriend, your guys just went out on a date and she wasn't interested in more dates. You didn't get dumbed.
2006-07-24 16:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stick to those who are can never rely on, male or female. If I was given a good presentation of grounds to be freinds, I would give it a chance. Why is it so important for you to get this friendship anyway?
2006-07-23 17:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how bad that date was. If the guy was revolting on the date and then lost his temper with me because I was not impressed with him, I would not even consider talking to him again. Otherwise, I might think about it....you would have to leave some very persuasive messages on my voicemail before I would consider talking to you.
2006-07-23 17:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋