Does any one think there is ever a good reason to have a 6 month break in a relationship, no contact?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years, he has just spent 9 months studying away, so was seeing him less anyway. He feels that he relys on me too much (financially emotionally etc.) and as he hasn't found a job yet after his course thinks he needs to be alone for a while to sort himself out, he has stressed he doesn't want to see other women

Well to be honest the break bit was my idea, he came to me confused and worried about not being enough of a man without a decent job etc. and felt like he needed to be alone to become more mature but didn't want to leave me, so I suggested a break and said that in a few months time see how he feels, I'll live my life and if I still want to be with him then well go from there!

Answer 1

Six months would be quite a long time. Read Men are from Mars women are from venus. In short it says that men sometimes retreat to regather themselves "the fortress of solitude / superman theory". They often don't like to talk about feelings rather they regroup and stay away for a while to get refreshed. I'd say 6 months is a major long time,maybe he just needs time and it feels like he needs 6 months but he needs less?

Answer 2

Everyone is different. He sounds like he has some issues that he is trying to iron out and maybe he is trying to find himself.
Then on the other hand 8 years really is a long time to be together and then turn around and say I need a break.

WE don't take breaks in marriage, so why would you want to do that in a serious relationship?
I would try finding out what the issue is and perhaps some counseling is needed. I don't know
Whatever you do, listen to your heart and follow your own instincts.
I wish you the best of luck. I hope everything works out for you

Answer 3

Only if he is going off to war on a top secret mission! In the middle of a vast forest or desert, where he has no access to phones or computers. Not Likely!

I would do my best to talk him into fully explaining his intentions, the " I need to find myself " explanation is too vague.

If he won't cough up a satisfactory answer, move on. You deserve to be with someone who will always try to work things through with you. (It is the stuff marriage is made of, compromise and teamwork)

At least you are not married, and hopefully don't have any kids. It sounds like he is trying to slowly kill the relationship and you should just cut him off and move on. It really doesn't matter if there is another woman or not.

Answer 4

If you guys love each other there isn't a reason for a break. You guys should be able to work through anything as a team. It would make you think there was more going on. I'd ask more question to find out the reason for this "break."

Answer 5

It honestly makes no sense. Because if you break up you may as well break up for good. Pretty soon ya'll wouldnt have any feelings for each other and wouldnt wanna be back together anyhow. So make up your mind now. Either u want him or u dont.

Answer 6

Um, I don't know if I'd believe the "no women" thing. When a man leaves a woman, there's usually another woman involved.

Answer 7

This time usually used to plot the murder of the female in the relationship so I would never see him again!!

Answer 8

I'm not sure this is normal, but I understand it... if you love and trust him, then let him find himself - cause if you push it, he's gonna leave anyway!

Be patient and understanding, but make sure he knows exactly how you feel too!!!

Good Luck!

Aloha!

Answer 9

You're worth more than that. There are so many things wrong with that situation. You need someone who gives you what you want and more...

Answer 10

go on with your life. if and when he grows up and wants to come back and you want him back, fine. but i think he is out "shopping around".just forget him and someday mr right will come along.