So for all that have read my past questions, know that I've screwed up big time. I just totally lost the trust of a guy that I am in love with because I had created a fake myspace account and made him. Anyway it's a long story so if you want more detail check my other questions....but can someone please give me advice as to how I can now regain his trust?
2006-07-23 10:17:25 · 21 answers · asked by Carrie P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust is so easy to lose but hard to regain. You have to first give him time. You can't expect him to have trust in you as quick as you would like. Your actions will speak volumes so I suggest that you show him that you can be trusted again. The most important thing is giving him time to regain the trust that he once had in you. If he never regains that trust then chalk it up as a valuable lesson learned.
2006-07-23 10:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really takes time and it takes effort. Keep in mind it also depends on how open that other person is. They can learn to trust you again if they want to. Although I must say, it will be a while before they can fully trust you.
Maybe you two can sit and talk to one another. Let him know that you are sorry and that you screwed up.
Some people think that a person screws up once they are going to do it again that is not always true. There are some people out there that do use their heads and learn from their mistakes.
I am in a situation like that where my fiancee did something and we broke up. He realized that what he did was absolutely wrong and he was in a lot of pain and I knew he was, but I was leery about going back. I really thought about it long and hard and realized that it is the right thing to do.
Yeah I am a little leery of the situation, but I do sense and know that he really loves me and truly regrets his mistake.
I just shoved it behind me and I will not hold it over him. He knows he did something wrong and he has made up for it.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope all works out for you
Hang in there.
2006-07-23 10:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one thing you must have for a successful relationship..Once that trust is broken it is very hard to get it back..You need to first realize why you did what you did..Didnt you trust him about something or was it only for fun? Prove to him in everyway that you can that you are sorry and that you do love him..Right now , not only does he not trust you,,he also thinks you really never loved him...I have been there so many times myself...it takes time,,and you will have that time if you really deep in your heart love him..Dont worry,,all will work out if the hearts are true...If he loves you then he will see how you are tryin to do all you can to regain his trust..It can be done but you have to let him grieve for a loss he thinks he has...God bless ya hun
2006-07-23 10:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned... Once you mess it up you have a long up hill climb to get it back 100%
I only wish it was that easy that you could just do one thing and regain someones trust, but it's not
2006-07-23 10:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one thing can regain trust, and that is time. He will need to see, over time, that he can trust you. It will be hard. Frankly, most people can never be "good" enough to regain trust. They want it NOW. If you are not patient, then he will never trust you again.
2006-07-23 10:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time
2006-07-23 11:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be impossible. Trust is not something easily restored because he'll always have the prior experience(s) in the back of his mind.
You'll need to agree to move on and not dwell on the past. Be his friend and see if the relationship can progress.
2006-07-23 10:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take time, lil sister, but if he cares about you as much as you care about him, he will get over it... just don't forget there are two sides to this story - he's not completely innocent here either!!
All you can do is open the door - whether he decides to walk through is his decision!
Good Luck, lil sis!
Aloha!!
2006-07-23 10:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 06:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never regain it back to it's original form. It's like a vase that when it is shattered, you can glue them back but not to it's original form.
2006-07-23 10:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by alandicho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋