would u ignore somebody that said 'hi' to you? more details below?

Question

theres this lady close where i live. i dont know her, never talked to her. but when i drive by her house shes sitting out on her porche. and she says "hello" "hey" "how you doing" etc.....and she says those things in a flirtatious way. sometimes i ignore her, sometimes i dont
im 21.she is 35-40 yrs old. in my eyes she is not pretty. shes married.
theres 2 streets that i can get out of the area where i live, so i have to drive through her street often.
i feel like if i respond back. she is going to think that im interested. but at the same time i feel like im being rude by not responding.
what would u do?

Answer 1

I think she's probably just being friendly, not flirtatious.

If you have lived there for awhile, maybe she has seen you grow up and it makes her happy to say "hi" to the young man you've become.

It's one of those neighborly things to do...you say hi to the people who live around you. You never know when you may need someone who lives close by in an emergency, so being polite know may pay off later.

Answer 2

She may just be lonely. It's really up to you. If you're driving by, have you got your window closed? I don't think you should worry so much about this. Either just say hi and that you're fine , or ignore her, but not both. Try to decide which you want to do. You don't owe this woman anything, so don't feel too guilty if you decide you have to ignore her. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. If you think she's interested in you and you are not interested in her, try not to lead her on by appearing friendly. Hope this is of some help.

Answer 3

There's a few things you can do, since you think it may be a problem to just wave back. When you know you're coming up to her corner, don'l look her way. Look straight ahead. Or pretend to fiddle with the radio. Or pretend to be on your phone. No law says you HAVE to respond to someone, especially a stranger. Though she may be just trying to be friendly (my husband does the same thing when people walk past the house), you don't have to respond. Though it is rude to not acknowledge someones' presence when they've acknowledged yours, you can be rude if you think it's going to lead to something bad. Otherwise, we'd be allowing our kids to speak to strangers, rather than ignoring them, preventing a bigger problem. Yes, you're not a little kid. But, you've got a legitimate concern. Just relax. You have the right to take care of yourself and be safe. <*)))><

Answer 4

LOL. If you feel like she's being flirty then she probably is...I have seen my fair share of flirty old women like her. I was hanging out with my husband (we are both in our 20's) in a local bar and this lady in her 40's...was flirting with my husband and rubbing his thigh right in front of me....some older women flirt with young men because it makes them feel young again...usually they have low self esteem and it confirms their exsistence to think that a younger man wants them. I think that is disgusting behavior...especially for a married woman. I suggest you just ignore her...who cares about being mean? YOu have to ask yourself...why is she always sitting out on her front porch....she probably flirts with everyone in the neighborhood and is looking for some fun. When you say Hi back it just gives her the self satisfaction that she is seeking and encourages her flirty behavior.

Answer 5

I think you have misinterpreted her greeting. I bet she just is being "neighborly" by saying hello to you as you pass. You shouldn't feel threatened or flattered by her actions. She, like me, might feel that it is important and courteous to acknowledge other humans as they pass by. Whether you return this common courtesy to her by replying is immaterial but would be considered rude by most people. I recommend that the next time you pass and she says hello, that you return her greeting with a smile and a quick wave.

Answer 6

I would not look at her but respond with a simple "hi" in an unencouraging way. Some people are just friendly and it can be taken wrong.

Answer 7

Some people are just genuinely kind. Maybe she is happily married. Don't read too much into it. It never hurts to say hello and make someone elses day.

Answer 8

I smile and say hi back. It makes someone's day just to have a friendly face. But I don't have flirting issues. Just a polite hi will do.

Answer 9

You should always greet someone after they have greeted you. But that does not mean you have to get involved in a conversation with her and you surely don't need to get involved with her. Who knows maybe she's just being nice?

Answer 10

are you really sure she's interested in you. maybe she's overly friendly or involved in a neighborhood watch program. sometimes we are so self invovled we don't realize there could be many reasons for the same action.