we have been dating for 7 months now. and we used to be all nice to eachother but now we argue like once a day. he gets me mad and frustrated and i freak out on him. i feel as if his friends, sports and his band are more important but he tells me they arnt. and that im the most important thing to him, but i dont know if he is lying. and also im his first real gf so he isnt really the best boyfriend ever but i still love him, but i dont know what to do??
2006-07-23 09:40:36 · 20 answers · asked by LittleMissTroubled 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You two need to sit down and calmly talk to one another. Stop bickering. Come to an agreement and try to make things better. That is how it should be done.
People have arguments and they look for an easy way out, divorce or break ups or whatever and they later start to regret it.
Don't jump into the decision of breaking up UNTIL you two have talked everything out and have learned to come to agreements.
Find out what is stressing him, talk to him about it and learn to get a grasp of your temper. It just adds fuel to the fire when you burst like that
Hang tight and I hope things work out for you! ;) Good luck to you and best wishes for happiness.
2006-07-23 09:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 20⤊ 6⤋
If you're economically dependent on him, it might be a good idea to find a descent paying job/career or seek funding from a community college financial aid office (start your own career). Cover yourself financially first, then leave.
If you still want to be with him, find a time outside of the house to sit down with him and meet 1-1 to perhaps discuss some vacation time between you and him. That might kindle the passion between the two of you. He he can't find the time to do this, then he has other priorities.
2006-07-23 16:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by sanddune 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in the middle if you can. Make time for his friends and band, time apart is important sometimes. It keeps the relationship fresh. But, make time for the both of you, that is just as important. Talk about it and see if you guys can work it out. If not then chose the last resort.
2006-07-23 16:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by D-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really need to talk to him, get things out on the table. u really love him and u should make an effort to not fight with him or freak out. try to actually resolve the argument than screaming at him, things arent always goin to be sugar and gum drops with relationships. have u seen married couples fight? youre allowed to fight once in a while. just keep strong, but if u have any doubts about your love for him, chances are u fallin out of love with him. the decision is up to u.
2006-07-23 16:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how much patience you have. I am almost positive all of those things that he is involved in he did not just get involved in them. I am sure he loves you as you love him he just has more to do than you so that's why you feel the way that you do. I am kind of in the same situation as far as wanting "my time", but I am trying to understand that I can't. My problem is my boyfriend is in Iraq, and he has told me about the down time he has, but I will only hear from him once or twice a week via email or instant messenger. He use to call me, but now he does not even do that. So I thought about saying the hell with it, but I had to realize a mistake I made in a previous relationship, and that is just because I want to spend my free time with him does not mean he wants to spend his free time with me. Just because I would like for him to make an effort in wanting to spend time with me does not mean he has to. It would be nice, and I some how manage to even allow myself to think him wanting to spend his free time with me would mean he definitely loved me. I realized that he did love me, and that he really wanted to be with me, but he still wanted is own life. Now with my boyfriend he will be coming home soon, and I said I don't want to do what most women do and that is wait for a man to have free time to fit me in so I have gotten a few hobbies already lined up before he come home I am even thinking about taking a few night classes, but the bottom line is you have to get a life so you will not have time to waste thinking about him, and once he see you backing off then it will make him step up. I don't mean that as though you don't have a life, but you know the down time you have where you would like to be with him. What I am saying is fill up that down time with hobbies or friends more than you already do. You guys argue now because you are trying to force it.
2006-07-23 17:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start arguing like that, it actually means you two are growing closer together. But you need to let him know, that you would like to be able to just chill with him w/out arguing sometimes. Maybe you two should take a couple days to yourselves and I bet yall will get along better when you start talking again.
2006-07-23 16:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get it out of him, that you are more inportant, my sister would fight with her bf every day or sdo,, they even have restraining order on each other,, they dont, but you should see a counsiler,, (my sister is going down the pipes) if you geet counling or even if you too can agree NOT TO fight,, it should be FINE. Im sure thse things you troo fight over are small as well
2006-07-23 16:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the "beadtheway" told was right. If you both can spent more time without each other comfortably then you can get out.
Remember one thing, you can loose a person in seconds but getting a person it takes years or even decades to get one. So take steps carefully.
2006-07-23 16:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Murari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He needs to work some stuff out for himself first, it sounds like. Once he does, he'll either come crawling back or you'll know you made the right decision.
2006-07-23 16:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by stulsevoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the bf/gf thing. Tell him you are both too young and immature to be dating exclusively.
After all, if you fight every day, it ain't a fun relationship.
2006-07-23 16:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probaly just stressed out from all the sports and band. try to get him to take a break from it all and u 2 can just hang out somewhere
2006-07-23 16:43:26 · answer #11 · answered by Jonathan E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋