Is it a sin to enjoy sex?

Question

The impression that I've gotten is that Christianity deems sex sinfull unless it is done in the confines of marriage and unless it produces a child.

Does that mean that Christians can't have sex for fun, even if it is with their spouse?

Can Christians not use any birth control, even condoms?

Are Christians supposed to not want sex at all?

Christians allowed to "experament" with sex acts and kinks?

Is oral sex a sin?

What about bondage?

churppy, I do believe in a god. Just not a Christian god. And I want to know because I like learning about religions. :p

whynotaskdon, I know plenty of people who practice bondage and bdsm and love eachother very much.

Answer 1

It's a sin NOT to enjoy sex.

Answer 2

Someone has mislead you. While it is true that sex is only for married couples, it is meant to be enjoyed in any way desired. The phrase is, 'the marriage bed is undefiled'. Sex for fun, kink. oral, and bondage are just fine. Thank goodness! And no, it doesn't have to produce a child every time. Thatls not even up to the couple anyway. As long as it doesn't involve killing a child that has already been conceived, there isn't even a problem with birth control.

Answer 3

The Bible plainly says pre-marital sex is a sin...no ifs, ands or buts. In other words, if you're single and screwing, you're in the wrong. Having a fiancee doesn't count either.

When it comes to birth control, the Catholic Church is against using any kind of contraceptive. Other denominations are more lenient...again, if you're married, it ain't a sin to have sex.

Married Christians can do what they want to do. They're married, for goodness sakes.

God knows that people will be tempted by many things, including sexual activty. Real Christians will not dwell on those thoughts...believe it or not, lusting is a sin also.

As far as oral sex, some denominations will say it is, but I haven't read anything in the Bible that says it is a sin.

Answer 4

Wow, that's a lot to answer at once!

The Bible does not teach that sex is only for producing a child; that's a belief of the Roman Catholic Church. It comes from the false idea that flesh is sinful; therefore, anything that is good for the flesh is sinful. That's why they think that Mary (who they wrongly think was without sin) needed to be a virgin for all time. If so, she would have been sinning; Paul wrote that husbands and wives - not just the wives - were required to please each other (1 Corinthians 7:4-5). If it was not meant to be enjoyable, we would not have been 'wired up' that way.

Whatever husband and wife do by mutual consent for the purpose of pleasing each other is, as far as I've been able to determine, completely permitted. Some things are less wise, for health and hygiene reasons, but not sinful as long as only those two are involved.

As far as oral sex, I have heard some people claim that it was selfish to demand pleasure without giving it. But it CAN be selfless, giving pleasure without demanding it. I believe that the Bible even specifically authorizes it (Song of Solomon 4:16).

Answer 5

No, it is not a sin to enjoy sex - when it is in the context that God gives, which is in marriage. The Bible calls sex outside of marriage fornication. Acts 15:29 says not to commit fornication. God created sex not only for reproduction but for enjoyment. Sex was designed for and is most enjoyable when it is between two people (1 man and 1 woman Matthew 19:5) that have committed themselves to each other for life in marriage, and are meeting one another's physical/emotional needs to the best of their abilities. Jesus also taught that we are not only to be pure in our bodies, but in our hearts. He said that if you lust after a person you are not married to you have committed adultery in your heart. Matthew 5:28. I do not believe it is a sin for a Christian to use birth control that prevents an egg from being fertilized. As far as experimenting with sex, there are certain guidelines that we should follow to be in obedience to scripture. To list a few examples of wrong sexual practices: Sex with someone you are not married to is wrong, sex with an animal is wrong, sex that is demeaning to one or both people is wrong, role-playing is wrong. The good news is that while God is a Righteous judge of sin, he is also merciful and forgiving. We all have sinned. Romans 3:23 & Romans 5:12 If we confess, (desire to turn away from, acknowledge, are sorry for) he will forgive us 1John 1:9. & John 3:16 John 3:3 I hope I was helpful!

Answer 6

I am of The Christian Faith... And yes sex is for fun... but within the confines of marrage between a man and a woman... I see no biblical direct stipulation that says birthcontrole is forbidden...in the Roman catholic cult it is a man imposed law...every healthy mortal human after a certain age, wants sex... that is how God designed us... There is more than one"position" for sex...except for anal sex and causing pain deliberatly to another... or desireing pain to be inflicted... which would be concidered harming the body which is a sin... If it feels good and both feel like it... go for it.....oral... if both like it... have fun.... no sex act should be compeled... never force any sex act on another...

Answer 7

No, it is not a sin to enjoy sex. God made and create sex for the pleasure of humankind. Satan came in preverted our preception of sex. By preversion I mean, the lusting, the selfishness, and the wrong uses. Let God guide you in the expererimental stages not the devil. Don't get suggestions from adult movies. Is oral sex a sin? I'm still waiting on the answer for that one. But I believe that if it not done in a selfish mode, I would believe it is okay. bondage i'm gonna leaving you hanging on that one.

Animals do it breed. Humans do it to bring new life and for pleasure. Oh yeah except dolphins, they do do it for pleasure.

Answer 8

No matter who says it, it's NOT a sin AT ALL! I have some christian friends and they don't really see SEX as a sin... It depends on how YOU see things, U know what I mean? As long as YOU feel right doing WHATEVER the heck U want, U don't have 2 feel guilty! Just remember that there are ALWAYS consequences to your actions... ENJOY life and the experiences it offers! CHEERS! ;0)

Answer 9

i'm a christian and i think sex can be fun. christians believe in birth control, mormons don't. and you can have oral sex. the only thing that christianity deems sinful is sex before marriage, but lots of different christians i know have different views on that.

Answer 10

I think you have Christians confused with Catholics? It doesn't matter to me what the church deems sinful.Their rules and regulations and someone deciding what the members are to eat,drink,do and think is a man made doctrine and not always what "God"" intended for his children.I do believe that the sex act should be between one man and one woman.And maybe "God" intended for that man and woman to be married for life, but life doesn't always turn out that way.I believe that "God" created man and woman to take care of each other and their needs.I mean if He had intended for us to live alone,surely He would have made our arms longer so we could scratch our own back...right? My out look on life and religion is: If it seems to outrageous or impossible to achieve,It was probably translated wrong,or they added to or took away from the wording,maybe even rearranged some of it to suit their own desires.

Answer 11

Lust is a sin. Sexual charm isn't lust. Lust ability viewing yet another man or woman as an merchandise i can use for my own exhilaration, quite than as a spouse in existence, someone with hopes and objectives and thoughts like myself. God designed sex to be relaxing precisely for married couples, and nobody else, so why does no longer married couples settle for His present and luxuriate in it??