I've been dating this guy for 3 months and he has recently been feeling depressed. His Dr. is starting him on Paxil.
He also told me that he "needs time" - to be happy with himself first.
Do you think this is true?what the Dr. recommended?
Or maybe just a "goodbye"?
What should I know about Paxil?
2006-07-23 09:23:48 · 16 answers · asked by Bounce 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you can go to webmd.com and they will tell you all about paxil. and yes your boyfriend is right he needs time to heal think about what he wants to do with his life bacially to " find himself" and have his alone time dont push him and dont leave him he will come to you when he is ready
2006-07-23 09:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think on some level he maybe "needs time" but when you are depressed you tend to push everyone away so can pretend everythings fine. what people can't see doesnt hurt them. you need to be supportive of what he is telling you but still be there as a friend. He needs help getting back on track. I really don't think this is a good bye or dr reconmmended i just think it is another act of depression where people try to isolate there selves. I was going through depression for a long time and I pushed everyone away. It is hard to see that my friends had all turned there back on me due to me Ignoring there calls or their visits. But my Boyfriend never left my side and I Told him to leave so many times but he didn't. He helped me over this hurdle in my life and I will be forever thankful for him being there. Be patient with your boyfriend make sure he knows you are there for him and surprise visits don't hurt either, that way he can't really make an excuse to not see anyone. good luck to you and your relationship
2006-07-23 11:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paxil is a good drug for a lot of people but he will have to do his time to see if it is the right medicine 4 him. I will tell you that I was on Paxil for a while and the results were good. Unfortunately I got off of it because of the sexual side effects. Good luck and give him time to get better.
2006-07-23 09:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by killmylandlord 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
paxil is a drug that alters the mood. it is one of the most addictive drugs ever produced. it used in place of a psychiatrist when thereis nobody availablesince it levels off the sadness and anger felt by people who are depressed. If the doctor prescribed paxil, your friend has serious problems.
2006-07-23 09:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive and go to google for more information about Paxil. Or ask your family doctor to explain what Paxil is.
2006-07-23 09:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by One Hand One Heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he is saying is true; its difficult being in a relationship when either you or your partner suffer depression. At the end of the day, you also have to think of yourself in this too; you are his g/f and this is affecting you. Do you want to wait around for him to be happy with himself (it may take time, depression can be unpredictable to say the least), and not be happy yourself? If you are happy waiting then fine, but dont wait around and be unhappy yourself.
you need to talk to him first about why he is depressed. You have been dating him and communication is important in a relationship. Dont grill him, but just talk about it with him; try and relate to his condition if you can.
Good luck :)
2006-07-23 10:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by coffeeaddict_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a drug for depression. I don't know if it will help him because people often have to stay on a medicine for awhile to see if that is working for them and then maybe switch to a different one. If he is very depressed and he has asked for space, then he is being honest. Tell him that you will be there for him if he wants to talk. Believe me it sounds like he is trying to be respectful to himself and to you. I hope he has family and friends that will help him, but he does need to find happiness with himself b/f committing to a relationship. When he is feeling better he may come around or then again he may not come around --to be with you. So you have to know that and to just be honest with him about your concerns. Then you should try to go on with your life and not let him worry you too much or that will bring you down. That is really all that I know to help you. I don't know him, but I do know people with that illness and they need to feel like you are listening and not telling them what to do. Also they need to hear the truth and know that they are responsible for their decisions and to be honest with others.
If you feel that you can not handle this--then just tell him that you will support him and be his friend. Then do not feel guilty about your decision. That is your right.
2006-07-23 09:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to maybe paxil.com and see if any information will help you or google the word paxil.
I agree with your boyfriend, he needs to be happy with himself first before he can give you that happiness. Be there for him and support him until he can get himself together.
2006-07-23 09:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by deviousbeautifulangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this under depression for natural things he can do to make a huge difference with info by MDs. Plus uplifting short story.
http://phifoundation.org/heal.html
2006-07-23 09:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. People who are low and depressed sometimes need space to try to sort themselves out
2006-07-23 09:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by sky4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋