My ex cheated on me a while back. We tried to work things out and it wasn't working. About a month ago she decided to leave. I did not take this well. We have still been talking but some of these talks ended in huge arguments where I said things I should not have said. I left her a voicemail saying I would not care if she died. I know this is foolish and regret saying it. I just really loved this girl and now I feel like I am turning crazy my mind is all messed up. So I decided to tell her today I wish not to speak with her again. This ended in a huge argument and I did not threaten her by any means I just told her I thought she was an ugly person. In the past month I have been calling her a lot but she also has called me. She now says she is going to get a restraining order against me. I just want to end all contact and do not wish to have this happen. I have tried calling her but she will not take the calls. Her bro is a cop Im in a mess what should I do?
2006-07-23 09:20:48 · 21 answers · asked by yeeeehaw4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry I do not go by her house or anything like that. I know Im being ridiculous calling her I spoke with her and everythings cool I will just end all contact with her. I just did not want a restraining order against me.
2006-07-23 09:27:52 · update #1
getruff69 your really classy ha.
2006-07-23 09:29:37 · update #2
you got yourself into a pickle, and let me remind you, I said you did not her. What I suggest doing is... 1.) stop calling her, because if you love her and you think she loves you back, then eventually she will miss you, and call you..... 2.) Try to move on to date other people or go out with friends to get you mind off of her. It will do you good, I think.....3.) Don't let her brother being a cop scare you or a restraining order, just stay away, and you wont have to worry about it. Good luck.
2006-07-23 09:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you truely aren't in love with her anymore.
You are probably in love with a memory.
Memories of happier times.
You long for that but those days are long gone.
When people start to say things like. "I wish you were dead." That is a HUGE sign that you no longer love her. You are just emotionally attached.
Also, due to the fact, every time you two speak, it ends up in an argument.
You say bad things to her. You do this probably because you are angry at yourself and you need to vent your anger on someone.
You can't vent on a friend, your boss, a colleague, a relative or a neighbor, so she is the chosen target. Less reprocussions.
You mentioned that she is going to get a restraining order against you.
The only reason why she would do that, is if you were hounding her and/or threatening or scaring her in any way.
You said ,"You just really loved this girl".
Did you notice, you used past tense?
You did not say, "I really love this girl." You are in a toxic relationship.
Due to the fact, SO many cruel things have been said, this relationship would be almost impossible to fix.
Since you don't love her anymore, why would a restraining order bother you?
You don't want to see her ANYWAY.
Why would you ever WANT to go over there?
As long as you don't show up, at the place, where she lives, you are safe.
You couldn't get arrested unless you showed up on her property.
It sounds like you hate her, so I can't see why you would ever WANT to go see her.
What should you do? Leave this mess behind you and start anew.
A fresh new life, without her in it and go back to being happy again.
2006-07-23 16:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a love hate relationship. I would just stop calling her. I would find something else to occupy my time. You don't want people to start thinking that you are a stalker. As easy as it is for me to tell you because I am not in your shoes, just walk away. It is for the best anyway. You cant live your life with someone that always makes you feel crazy and angry. It just isn't healthy for either on of you. Go look for happiness, leave her to find her own. Good Luck!
2006-07-23 16:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid her. Don't talk to her anymore. I know how it feels to love someone so much you can't stop loving them. Just don't call her. for get about her and her number and everything about her. Just clean up anything that reminds of her. so you can start a new life. Soon you will forget her and find a new girl. Its going to take some time and some relationships to forget her but in the end it will be for the best. I am like you too. I got mad at him and alittle crazy but now he is out of my life and i have started new things and i am a happier person without him. You just got to take that step to get them out of your life. and if she starts bugging you then you could talk to her brother to tell her to stop calling you.
2006-07-23 16:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you want to end all contact with her, why do you keep calling her? You're just proving yourself wrong, and giving them more evidence to use against you when she goes for the restraining order. Stop calling her, and stop picking up when she calls.
2006-07-23 16:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is lots of thing but first you should no that you have proof that she has called you to an you gott that on phoone record second dont worry bout the message you left her because it just said you dont care if she dies you never said that you were going to kill her so dont worry as far as how to leave her alone you start datein other ppl an you block her number and try not to think about her i no how you feel cuz i have been there done that but you cant make some one fall in love that dont want to be so just let her goofy *** go !!!!!! i hope this helps buddy =)
2006-07-23 16:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step back and let her cool off and by the sounds of it you probally need to cool off also. The only way you are going to be able to get passed the cheating is to forgive her. It is something that is hard to forget but you need to forgive her for what she has done to you. I don't know if she told you she cheated or if you found out another way. But if she told you, she did it because she loves you and she is admitting she made a mistake and she thought your love for her would get you both from this point. Take a deep breath & back off for a bit.
2006-07-23 16:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do the following NOW. I repeat NOW.
1. STOP calling her
2. STOP looking her direction
3. STOP driving near her home or place of work
4. MOVE on with YOUR life.
You will end up in jail if you continue to harrass her. She has asked you to stop. Has said she is getting a restraining order. YOU have been PUT ON NOTICE. Unless you want to go to JAIL, and you will - it is called stalking - you will STOP it now. Move on....
2006-07-23 16:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you want to stop all contact so don't worry about the restraining order.
2006-07-23 16:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by angel79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i have a piece of sh** ex boy that don't know what the fu** he wants, just like you. Shes trying to move on, stop saying those rude things to here. And remember, *everytime you judge someone else, you're really judging yourself.* If you sit down and examine the situation, I believe you will realize that you're the ugly one that should die,not her!!!!
2006-07-23 16:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋