How do you keep the romance going with your partner when you have a baby?

Question

It is very easy to lose touch a bit with your partner when you have a baby or young child. You get distracted easily, you can take each other for granted, and be tired for soooo long! What are some good ways you kept your relationship going after kids?

Answer 1

Have at least 2 dates a month. WIth out the child of course. Each person gets to plan a date. Be creative and have fun!

Answer 2

That has to be your top priority. Tired or not, take time after the child goes to sleep, to have time for your partner. Get a sitter for one night a week. It's very important that you don't lose the feeling for each other. A nice dinner, then maybe a bath, and some relaxing time after that. It may not be as often as it used to be, but make the most out of the time you can sneak with each other.Good luck.

Answer 3

You must spend some time alone together as a couple. We have had a date night every Friday night since the day we married. (We've been married 20 years and have 3 children.) If we have to miss a date, we reschedule it to another night. Sometimes we have exchanged baby sitting with other couples so that we could keep the date night going.

We also schedule weekends here and there throughout the year where we go away, just the two of us. At times, we could only swing one night away. That was still worth it.

Be sure you remember to say "I love you" and to be affectionate with each other--don't get too busy for those things.

We have made spending time together a priority in our marriage. Someone once asked me how I knew my parents loved each other. I told him that it was because they spent so much time together and they still kissed and held hands. I want it to be equally clear to my kids that my husband and I love each other.

Answer 4

Make a date with each other at least once a week, just like you did when you were dating. Either find a baby sitter, or put the kids to bed early on that night (a baby sitter is best). Be as romantic as you were when you were just dating, before the kids arrived. Make absolutely certain that your partner knows you want him badly, even when you both are too tired. Never just tell him "no". Always follow with something like "I want to so badly, but I just can't tonight." Then take the initiative with him on another night.

Answer 5

First of all get enough " you" time and pamper yourself a little bit. You have to feel relaxed and sexy and you can make anything happen. If you don't have access to a baby sitter, this is a plan that worked for me. I plant a secret letter in my hubby's mail.When he opens the letter it is a very explicit invitation to a private bubble bath party being held in our tub. I make sure that everything is perfect and there is plenty of aromatherapy candles and lingerie and body oils and etc etc etc.... and I let the festivities begin.There are so many ideas how to keep the romance there.Just be creative,only you know what your man wants and likes, so give it to him.

Answer 6

When the kid goes away to college, make a nice dinner with wine and candles and music. Dance together, enjoy the meal, look at each other, talk, and then answer the phone to see what's the problem with the kid this time.

Answer 7

Set aside time for you two, when you are not mommy and daddy. Also try doing things you uesd to do that you may not have done in a while, thta will remind you why you fell in love with the other person. Most importantly, BOTH of you have to want to be romantic with one another.....

Answer 8

Try to converse about things other than the baby. Designate a date night and or take weekend getaways.

Answer 9

wait till the kid goes to sleep, then you and your man can *** like jack rabbits. keep in mind that this is where the first kid came from, so you might want to use a little birth control to avoid that problem a second time.