Okay so me and my guy have been going out for 3 mo. We are both17. I have made a committment to stay pure till marriage. He understands this and respects my deciscion, meaning he has never pressured me or anything. Guys if you really liked a girl...i mean like loved her but she wouldn't have sex with you.....what would keep u togher...honestly? How can u satisfy ur bf withoug giving him oral or sex? please help me , i'ms desperate to know!!!. Also, on a date i said i loved him for the first time. He was receptive and said it back. Do u think it was too early in our relationship to say this? THanks for the answers!
2006-07-23 09:02:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a man truly loves a woman and vice versa, they are going to respect one another's feelings and not force anything on them or leave them for what it is that they feel. That is one of the greatest parts of true love. I would not worry about it. If he leaves you because you wish to stay pure until marriage, then something is wrong, his love is not true. A good and decent man would admire and appreciate that in a woman.
2006-07-23 09:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok it's only been going on for 3 month's so stay cool. Hey, I read your answer to "Professor Porkrind" & from that I conclude that you are a very special & caring person. What guy in his right mind wouldn't value being around someone like you. I wish I could say that with boys it isn't all about sex, but you guys are 17, so it's very likely that it is on his mind. However, if he's more mature than most guys his age, & he values your company as much as I think he does, he's going to be satisfied just to be near you. I suspect that the pressure you are feeling to keep him satisfied in some other way is comming from within. Stay committed to your beliefs, & stop worrying about the future of your relationship with this boy. That way you can enjoy the moment you are in right now all the more. Things will always work out the way they should in time.
2006-07-24 16:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its too early but, you aren't gonna like this probably, you are young. I have had plenty of relationships and I was 17 once and in love but you don't know any different because you haven't had your heart broken. Because of my experience I can say that its hard to stay abstience, at least when I was 18. But now I look back and I think abstience is a good thing, especially if you can wait. Makes you learn more about the other person. Hang in there
What other things you can do? Hand jobs and touching is another way other then oral and sex. If you masturbate, mutual masturbation is good and you will learn a lot about each other just from that believe it or not. But if you are not into that then try to stay away from all that other wise it will just feed your or his curiousity. Hope that helps.
2006-07-23 09:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by D-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really does love you he will understand that you don't want to have sex. I have been with my girl for 1 1/2 years and we have not had sex or oral sex because she wants to wait for marriage. This is one of the only relationships that I have not had sex and think we have gotten closer because of it. I think you should wait besides 3 months is not a long time.
2006-07-23 09:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by raptor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really does love you, then he respects your decsion that you dont want to have sex. But being 17, you need to be careful, guys always want to experience things. Dont feel you need to do something with him to keep him around. I was in a relationship for 4 years with my bf. We didn't have sex until a year after dating. Hes a great and nice guy, but he still ended up cheating on me because of the changes we all experience when we graduated high school. People want to experience things before they get too tied down...just be careful.
2006-07-23 09:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good for you! It's nice to find someone who stands behind their convictions and doesn't fall due to peer pressure. A 17 year old male though may be too immature to think that your virginity is a good thing. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait. If he asks you to satisy him in any other way, through oral or handjobs, that means he's not willing to wait, and sex is more important to him than you are.
2006-07-23 09:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating this boy for 3months the relationship is still fresh and newThere may still be things he hasn't told you yet because he doesn't know enough about you to find out how you are going to react. He might stay with you even though you aren't having sex but he may not. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are still together and we haven't had sex yet.
2006-07-23 09:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tooken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first let me congratulate you on your morals......good going....now, there is still the hand......and is it to early? well, I think that the two of you have many more loves in your life before you find the right one.....however, you would not be the first to have a happy long marriage with your high school sweetheart, but that rarely happens, good luck in this relationship
2006-07-23 09:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's to early for marriage. but, to make a foundation for a lasting relationship it's never to early. take it slow and enjoy each others company if you can get by with out sex the y you may have a truly fulfilling relationship upon marriage.
2006-07-23 09:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by siddragoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to that inner voice. ill tell you sex also creates lots of problems.
2006-07-23 09:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by rey in mexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋