ok im 16 years old and im in love with a boy who is 21 and my mom wont let us be together because of the age differance but we really love each other what can i say to my mom to get her to let us be together, shes known him almost his whole life....
2006-07-23 08:59:37 · 7 answers · asked by ~*~Marie~*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When your a teenager the age difference always seems to be a prob, your mom is prob just concerned, the funny thing is when your 30 and he is 35 it won't matter then, but seriously if you really feel you love this guy and are serious, well just be careful is all I can say, I honestly don't think their is anything you could say to convince your mom! She's your mom and is prob freaking out! Just take it easy and slow....good luck
2006-07-23 09:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom's right. You're not old enough to know what is good for you. Even what you want in a man will change.
When you're 16, it's hard to understand that you still don't know squat. Hell, it's hard to understand at any age because your frame of reference is all screwed up. You think you know everything because you've figured out everything you've been exposed to, but there is always so much more you won't realize you don't know until you've been exposed to it.
Well, your mom has been exposed to it. She knows the difference between a 16 year old boy and a 21 year old man. A 21 year old man will wrap you around his finger. You'll be used and possibly degraded. To a 21 year old man, that's entertainment. The problem is, you haven't been exposed to the level of games a 21 year old guy can play. You won't see them coming, and you won't even know it's happening until it's too late.
When you look back when you're 25 or 30, you'll thank your mom. If this guy is truly a good guy, he'll understand why your mom doesn't want you dating him now. She'll change her story when she feels you're experienced enough to watch out for yourself. By then, a 6 year difference won't be that big a deal because you'll both be mature adults.
Listen to your mom and accept that there is a whole LOT she knows that you won't understand for years and years.
2006-07-23 16:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by soontobeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say to your Mom to make her change her mind. The age difference for now is too great. Your still in school and he is probably out of school or in college. Your life experiences at this point are not compatible. When you are 21 and he is 26, you will be much closer in maturity.
2006-07-23 16:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you are 16!! I have never met a 16 year old in my LIFE who really understood what love meant. Your mother is doing the right thing. If this is really love, he can wait till you are old enough to have a true relationship together.
2006-07-23 16:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by blackwind45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i was going to say invite him over so your mother can meet him but since she already knows him then thats out. You really do have so much more living to do and that is why she wants you to wait on an older man.Sorry cant really give you anything on this. Be patient with your mother she is only looking out for you
2006-07-23 16:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by kimber69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know all the details, however i think that you need to forget about older men or men in general until you are older. experience tells me that the younger you are the harder all that stuff is.
2006-07-23 16:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by rey in mexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her more detaile that he your date and she gotta be ery happy to see here daugter dating a new adult guys
2006-07-23 16:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by lovelygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋