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There is a huge possibility because he's never had any past relationships and he's 19 & goes to college. He's a very shy person and never talks to any girls at work (& we have lots of teenage/ attractive girls). Out of every guys, he's the only one who's never said anything about a girl, like how hot she is or how fine her a$$ is. And he said to me one day that he'll just wait for someone to approach him rather than ask someone out (no gender specified).

He acts pretty straight but speaks really softly (almost in a feminine way). He's a tough one to read so I would need your help guys. What should I try?(I'm a closeted gay by the way. i'm turning 18 & still in high school)
Should I flirt and give him that "look" & see how he responds? (oh, i'm not talking about a slutty look cause I don't want to scare him away).

2006-07-23 08:58:50 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

I'm sorry, I forgot to put that I really like him. That's why I want to know if there's hope.

2006-07-23 09:04:51 · update #1

33 answers

ok serious. first why does it concern you?
if he was would you be bothered?
and if so then don't try and find out
it's possible to have male gay friends, i'm sure you aint that good looking!

2006-07-23 09:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by calibra2317 1 · 0 0

Maybe he was just raised to be a very respectable man. Not all men get a kick out of talking about girls' parts. Sounds like you are interested in him. You should have a conversation with him one day and ask him what he thinks about gay marriages. Say you were talking to some friends the other day, and the topic came up and you were wondering what others thought about it. That should give you some insight into his sexual preference. But something tells me that he's just a shy, respectable, young man.

2006-07-23 09:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0 0

Ignore Calibra, that was just rude!

Why don't you try getting to know him better? You know dinner, movies, drinking (if you are into that), sports, whatever both of you are into. If he is, and he is interested, he will slowly reveal that to you. If not, you will end up with a really good friend.

Btw, some personal thoughts on the whole gay/ straight thing.
I think God wants us to be monogamous (life-long) no matter who we are attracted to. That said, I think the rules of dating should be the same no matter what the sexual orientation.

I think that is a very moral, ethical, and honorable way to see someone.

That also takes care of part of the sex thing, because then everybody waits until the relationship is ready for it.

Hope that helps.
-Vic

2006-07-23 09:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vic 3 · 0 0

And you need to know this because? His personal life is his personal life - there is really no professional need for you or anyone to mingle in his personal business.

I say good for him for not making comments about girls being hot or a nice ***. He has manners, something MORE people can use.

I think you need to stop being nosey and worry about doing your job when you're at work rather than worrying about everyone elses personal life or sexual preference.

I say shame on you for even asking or wondering.

2006-07-23 09:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0 0

tell him u got a girl wants a 3 way with 2 guys and if he's interested. if he says no ask about how about just the 2 of you

2006-07-23 09:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by bush_4_evah 1 · 0 0

How about being his friend and spending some time with him outside of work. Ask him if he wants to see a movie with you or just hang out. If he does you will be one step closer to becomming friends and from there...who knows?

2006-07-23 09:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by catastrophic event 2 · 0 0

You could just ask if he's family. He'll know what you're talking about if he is. It sounds like he may just be shy, and waiting for a girl to approach him.

2006-07-23 09:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0 0

I know several guys that are 19-20 and have never had any relationships. They are concentrating on their education and working.

What business is it if someone is gay. If they want you to know they will tell you, if they are interested you will know.

Leave it alone.

2006-07-23 09:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well apart from the soft speech, he sounds a lot like me when i work in an office

my reasons are i dont mix work with pleasure, i dont make any offensive remarks, i dont suggest who is the nicest looking, or anything like that,

Only time I would get friendly with a girl at work, would be if it was a work nights out, and i got to drunk and forget my plan for at work, so my suggestion would be, organise a night out for people at work, and see how he reacts while your out,

although I wouldnt approach on the first time out, you would be able to see his reactions with other work/non work people, and gage from there

2006-07-23 09:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by paul_heilbron 3 · 0 0

Well that is pretty rude to asume that he is gay by the way he talks. I think you need to just think of him as a person not a "Gay person" all people are the same.

2006-07-23 09:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by caroleeberhardt 3 · 0 0

Odds are he isn't gay. If he says that he's waiting to be approached, that just means that he's ultra-shy. Sure, approach him, but don't have high hopes that he'll respond...

2006-07-23 09:01:04 · answer #11 · answered by Dr_Adam_Bricker 3 · 0 0

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