I know many mothers of multiple young children who manage to find 5 or 10 minutes for themselves to look presentable. Why do some stay-at-home-moms constantly complain about how they have no time to wear something other than sweats, to eat responsibly, and to exercise a little? Somehow working people, who are stuck in an office for 8 hours-a-day manage to do these things and also take care of their children. How come these mom's can't and then expect us to pity them?
2006-07-23 08:56:35 · 22 answers · asked by Stephanie S 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think it all depends on the person. Some people are just multi-taskers...and some are just plain lazy.
Some mothers just have higher work ethics and can accomplish things and juggle multiple things - others are challenged.
It all depends on you.
2006-07-23 09:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I am a stay at home mom and I don't think I'm lazy. I take care of my home, cook three meals a day for my family, volunteer at my children's school, help out my working sister, and run errands for my elderly parents. All this week I have been up before 6:00 and on my feet until around 5:00 volunteering -- thank heavens for crock pots. After three and a half hours of home work, reading aloud to children, and chores to make sure everything is in place for the following morning, I spend another hour or so just reconnecting with my spouse. Then I fall asleep exhausted so I can start over again the following morning. Most of the stay at home moms I know are on the same treadmill of volunteering and taking care of their extended families. I put in more work than my sister who works outside the home. I have less free time and definitely less me time. I know not all SAHMs are on the go all the time, just like I know all working moms don't have it easy. I feel that those women who are willing to bash stay at home moms are really just jealous and SAHMs who bash working moms have the same issues.
2016-03-16 04:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we stay at home with our kids, our focus tends to be on the kids more than on other things. I always find time to look okay when I have to go somewhere, but it is really hard between trying to keep the house picked up behind the kids all day and making sure that they have some stimulation that isn't TV. I babysit other kids as well so our family has the money it needs so I can stay with my kids all the time. By the time the other kids go home and I start supper, there is no time for a shower. There's always something to be cleaned, always more laundry, always something I didn't have time to get to today. I know some moms whine about it, but I try not to. When there are people at home more, there is going to be more to clean, and more laundry, and less time for other things, like adult female friends. I have to wait until my kids are in bed at night to go for a walk and lift weights, and most of the time by then I am mentally and physically exhausted.
And just a note about working 8 hours a day and still taking care of your children - I take care of your children. Whether working moms want to admit it or not, the babysitter raises your children. The kids that I ttake care of are with me more waking hours than they are with their parents. I know that some moms have to work, but some of the moms I've known would rather put their kids in day care than stay at home with them. God did not give us children to send to someone else to raise.
2006-07-23 09:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by MamaMia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have done it both ways, worked when I had my son and am a stay at home mom now with my new baby. Both times I made time to make myself presentable. I always wear clean clothes and take a shower and put on make up and fix my hair. I know people who just don't care about their appearance at all after becoming pregnant. Thats why some women can justify 50+ pound weight gains in their pregnancy and then use that as an excuse for years after they have given birth.
2006-07-23 09:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Shawna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you work outside of the home it is an escape a break if you will. Sometimes staying at home is a three ring circus that only gets worse if there is some reason for straying outside the home on that particular day. I have 2 children under 2 and between meals and naps and crying and laundry yes it is difficult to look "presentable" all the time..I don't expect pity from others. It is hard to be at home all day everyday with kids...
2006-07-23 09:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this question is funny but annyoing. I think that its great that you know many mothers to find time for themselves. They are very lucky. But just because they can, doesn't mean "all mothers" can. I am a stay at home mom of a two year old and one year old and I find very little time for myself. They're personalities are so full of energy that I can't leave them alone for berely two minutes without finding a diaper of "poo" squished into the carpet and a naked two year old stuffing toys down the air vent (that she somehow figured out how to lift up). Also, some mothers don't have help like others. Grandma's, Aunts, and Best friends are usually always available (or at their house) for the "best dressed" mothers to have some pampering time. And for the working ppl who work 8 hrs a day...? HA! They do "these" things but only in the evening and weekend. I worked full time until 5 months pregnant with my son. The daycare get's the hardest part. So before you start JUDGING stay at home mothers, you have to understand what its like to be a stay at home mother.
2006-07-23 09:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by pixiedustplease 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some can and some can't. I myself am pregnant with my second and have a 3 year old daughter and there are some days its noon before I get to shower and dress. My reasoning is pretty simple. If my daughter wants me to do something I do it with her then. She is only this small for so long and I spend as much time with her as possible. It wont kill me to wait a few extra hours to shower and dress. Before i know it she'll be gone so I'm making the most of the time that I have with her as I will with my new baby. Pretty much I just put my kids first. That's the way it should be.
2006-07-23 09:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by JL's Mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home with 3 or 4 kids, get up at 5AM, do laundry, sweep, pick up toys, break up fights, wipe butts, wipe noses, cook breakfast, lunch and dinner, change diapers, make bottles, pick up toys, and all that other stuff that goes with staying at home, THEN, pass judgement.
You are out of your mind if you think there is enough time in the day to primp when you have small ones to look after. Sure, there should be time to shower and at least look presentable, but you can't chase down your two year old in high heels and a skirt, nor can you get boogers off the curtains when you are wearing a business suit. Get it?
2006-07-23 09:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
OK......... Let me say that I am a stay home mommy and yes dear, I work my *** off at the gym with no complaint. For you to say that stay home mommy's are all this way, I think you must not have any children of your own. It is a challenge to do all of the things a mommy needs to do for the children and hubby in one day. And to do it everyday 24/7 is a damn tough job. I am not lazy, I rarely watch television, and in my free time I am at the gym or doing something with my family. I take pride in myself but some parents have other challenges that I may not have and until you are in their shoes I say, "you have no right to rant about someone else." And why do you care anyway.? Maybe in time you will have a more understanding viewpoint .
2006-07-23 11:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because you don't deal with your kids all day long. You try to get things done for your self and deal with your kids for 12 hours and see how much you get done. Let's face it. working moms drop off there kids around 6:30-8:00 AM at day care. And then keep them there until the last min. Let's say 7:00PM. then they go home and give them dinner and put them to bed. And on weekends you are doing things that you didn't get done during the week. Working moms are lucky if they spend more than 24 hours a week with there kids. No wonder kids these days are messed up. I may not look great but, my kids are so much better off with me then some day care. Stay at home moms work much harder than moms that work out side the home.
2006-07-23 10:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband was just saying that he read or heard (or something) about how people who have more time to themselves just have more time to eat and do nothing. People on the go don't have time to eat, so they don't get into the habit of eating unhealthy foods all the time. Maybe that has something to do with it.
I don't know many stay-at-home moms, so I can't comment much more than that. Don't listen to people who say "you don't have kids, you don't know." It takes a rational mind and love to raise a child well. You don't have to actually have one to figure that out (and I'll prove it in about 9 or 10 months when I have my own kid & rock raising it just like I've said I would, heh heh).
Anyway, the one stay-at-home mom that I DO know ALWAYS looks like she's about to do a photo shoot for a magazine. She says that she doesn't get to out very often, so when she does, she makes it worth her while. Maybe you'll get loads of responses from these moms, which would just prove your point a little more- they could be exercising instead of browsing Answers...I can't talk though. Like I said, I don't have kids yet, and I'm on here way too much.
2006-07-23 09:21:11 · answer #11 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋