he hates my friends and they hate him. he barely calls me. he keeps making excuses why he doesnt call. all of my friends think i should. should i or not???
2006-07-23 08:44:52 · 40 answers · asked by kraftymon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it all comes down to do u love him or not and is he worth it or not i'm not trying to judge or anything but he don't sound like he's worth it at all and well if u think ur friends are good friends then u should listen to them they would never steer u wrong at all and then again everything happens for a reason if u break up with him it's cuz there's someone nicer and better who pays attention to you and likes ur friends and loves u comeing ur way!
2006-07-23 08:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by frankie 1 · 19⤊ 2⤋
Sounds to me like he's already broken it off with you. Alot of guys do this because they are scared by the thought of long term. They don't want to hurt your feelings so they don't bother to be straightforward. What a loser. You're too good for a guy like this. Back off, way off - if he doesn't call you - just let it be over. Guys are particularly dense and immature at times and they don't realize that it hurts a girl worse when they are not honest and clear about where things stand. But you don't want to force that out of him and have an awful argument either - it's just not worth it when there are totally better guys out there. It's not easy - but just let him go. My best friend put this saying in her yearbook, "If you love someone, set them free - if they come back to you - they are yours forever, if not - they never were." Okay, so make him have to come chasing after you - stop chasing him. There's nothing that makes a guy look like more of a stud - and makes the girl look bad - than to have a girl chasing him whom he's not chasing - so don't give such a loser the pleasure. If he wants to see you again, make it really really hard for him to have to do so - make him grovel. He's got to really care about you and value you more than he does his friends and your friends' opinions. It doesn't sound like he's mature enough to do this yet. Be strong - don't pick up the phone - unless and until he grovels to see you again and I mean ready to serenade at your doorstep grovel. Show him what us girls are made of!
2006-07-23 08:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun, first of all leave your friends out of your decision. Fair enough itif helps when your partner gets on with your friends, but you cant base your decision on what they tell you.
He does sound like the unreliable type, but you dont say if his excuse are legitimate or obviously made up just not to call you, so its harder to answer your question!
My advice to you would be to write a list of the pros and cons against your boyfriend. If you care about him enough to want to make the relationship work, then sit him down and talk to him about how his lack of contact bothers you - if hes worth it then he'll rectify this.
If you do decide to stay together then I think you need to get him and your friends to give things another try - tell them that obviously they are important to you and you value their decision, but you've decided to stay with him and now you'd like them to see him in a new light.
2006-07-23 08:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would break up with him because if he hates your friends and hardly ever calls you it means that he doesn't care that much. and if he has to keep making excuses it means he doesn't want to be with you..
2006-07-23 08:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? who would you rather loose your guy or your friends. Boys come and go but friends will always be around no matter what. Go with your heart and not your head. If you dont love him then it will all be easier. Only you can truly answer this question. Good luck girl and remember do what your heart tells you.
2006-07-23 09:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by noone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to that voice inside your head. If it tell you to leave him than do so. I always weigh my options. If the good is better than the bad than i would stay with him but if the bad is worse than the good you already know what you need to do. Get out a piece of paper and write down his postives and then write down the negatives. If one out weighs the other than leave him. God luck and God Bless.
2006-07-23 08:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by lovemeacb4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun let me tell you what i was told, boyfriends may come and go but youre freinds will always be there i almost lost my family over the same thang youre goin through and it aint pretty i know, but just trust youre self and set back and thank on it which one can you see youreself without is he worth losing youre freinds over? hope i could help and may you make the right choice. love mommaseta
2006-07-23 08:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you like him. If you do you need to set down and talk about what is going on . And if you feel he is not telling you what you want to hear than let him go. Because he just mite have someone else.
2006-07-23 08:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say don't call him.
Then if he doesn't call you, it'll be over.
If he does call, you'll have to decide then if you want to talk to him or see him, or want to claim busy-ness.
You don't say why he and your friends hate each other, but it's not a good sign.
2006-07-23 08:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want him to call you more ??? if yes have you expressed this to him ??? if yes and he just flat out doen not care leave him . if you have not told him and you want to stay with him tell him how you feel and see if it gets any better . but i know ffrom first hand your freinds are always right they are not blinded by his beauty of charm they have the otu side perspective . always trust your friends opinions
2006-07-23 08:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this guy can not even give a little of his time to phone you, then he is not worth it. you should end it now before you get hurt. go find someone who actually wants to spend time with you. remeber no guy is worth tears, but the ones who are won't make you cry.
2006-07-23 08:50:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋