my sister christina is dating a losser named kevin. he is always cheating on her, and it is tearing are family apart becausewe say get rid of him but she goes back with him evry time. kevin can't keep a job verry long, has no diploma and is not going to get no where with his life.. what can we do to force tina to stop going with him. please i need some advice
2006-07-23 08:37:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
which is it christina or tina? well move away, or put a protective order against, so it will keep him away.
2006-07-23 08:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try and stand in the way of her and Kevin being together you will be ousted immediatley. Trust me. Be her best friend; listen to her and ask her things like "do you wanna feel like this?" "What does he do for you besides make you sad?" and "Why are you with him?" Try not to come off rude, just give her a shoulder to cry on. Tell her you can't tell her what to do, but you will be there for her EVERY time he messes up which will be often. Discuss her options with her. Just don't TELL HER WHAT TO DO.
2006-07-23 15:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Blanquita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to ur sister and tell her she shouldnt be with a person that is always cheating on her and she could do a lot better. if she still feels like she wants to be with this person than the best thing to do is to support her choice and let her figure things out on her own.the important thing is that u let her know how u felt. u wouldnt want to drive her away becuse of ur dissagreement. family is very important, no one will ever be there for u as much as a family memember. and when she does make the right choice you would want to be there to make her feel better and give her ur support.
2006-07-23 15:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by flyingy85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you will not be able to force her to stop dating him. If you want to take an active part in trying to break them up then start be non-chalantly taking her places. Introduce her to some of your single friends, but don't act like you are introducing her to get her hooked up with someone else. Just introduce like as friends. Eventually when she is surrounded by all these intelligent, hard working, good people then she will realize what she has and kick him to the curb. Good luck.
2006-07-23 15:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all need to stop harping on the problem and let her deal with it. We all do loosing things in our life. She is probably young and has to find out about life on her own. You cannot live her life for her. She will find out sooner or later for her own self but as long as you all harp on it, she will only want him that much more.
Wisdom comes from learning from your mistakes.... the foolish ones only keep making more of the same.
2006-07-23 15:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, there's nothing you can do...only christina can make the decision to leave him, and the only way she will do that is when she takes those rose-colored glasses off and sees him for who he really is. Love is a special and wonderful emotion, unfortunately it can also make us blind to the truth. As her family, you guys just need to support her and be there for her when the crap hits the fan (and no telling her "i told you so"...it'll only make her feel worse). good luck!
2006-07-23 15:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by mdel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can have proof that he is cheating on her then it might wake her up but all you can do is sit her down with family and friends to esplain how you feel and that there is someone better in this world for her tell her you understand that it will be hard to leave him but in the end it is all for the best
2006-07-23 15:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by superdc692004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister will never listen to you or your family. The best you can do is keep quiet, and be there for her. It may take some time, but I'm sure she'll see him for the loser that he is.
2006-07-23 15:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. My sister married her loser. Seven years later they are still married and he is still a loser. He has a college degree but still no job and she is still the one supporting them both and making all the sacrifices.
2006-07-23 15:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very kind and sympathetic to her and then explain her.
Also she is at a stage where proofs alone can convince her.
Try to use some proofs to validate your concern for her.
2006-07-23 15:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋