How do I tell my semi-religious Christian parents, family, and friends I want to become Wiccan. I just didn't believe in Christ. So I searched for another religion and found Wicca. And it is the perfect religion for me. I have practiced in secret for about a year and I just want to tell them. But I am afrid they won't accept it.
2006-07-23 08:32:24 · 18 answers · asked by TheWonderer878398 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
How do I tell my semi-religious Christian parents, family, and friends I want to become Wiccan. I just didn't believe in Christ. So I searched for another religion and found Wicca. And it is the perfect religion for me. I have practiced in secret for about a year and I just want to tell them. But I am afrid they won't accept it.
2006-07-23 08:34:48 · update #1
yes I accidently repeated a paragraph sheesh
2006-07-23 08:35:33 · update #2
i am just kind of nervous becuase people do lose friends and get rejected by family because of religious beliefs.
2006-07-23 08:38:44 · update #3
I made the mistake of not telling my fundamentalist Christian family, and instead they accidentally just found out. Trust me when I tell you that you are better off approaching them first rather than hiding it!
However, there is no easy way to do it. I think the best way would be to just find a time where you can just sit down and talk to each other quietly. Probably not at a meal because you don't want anybody throwing food, LOL.
Read as much as you can and be as informed as possible because a lot of accusations will come up and they will probably know very little about it. You want to educate them as much as possible and be able to answer your questions to the best of your ability. It can be frustrated to be backed into a corner by their questions because you don't know how to explain yourself.
Consider buying or taking a book out of the library that is specifically about explaining Wicca/Paganism to Christians. (I know my local library has a book called 'Pagans and Christians'.) You may want to make sure you have the book handy when you have this 'talk' so you can use it as a reference and in case they want to take a look at it afterwards.
I wish you luck!
Blessings and Light
~RW
2006-07-23 08:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix's Mommy 4 · 12⤊ 1⤋
You got a lot of good council here. I’m going to throw a couple of more suggestions at you.
1. Remember that you don’t need to convince your parent and friend of anything. If they start getting angry or accusative, take the higher ground. Don’t argue or fight or get angry. Let them know you’ll be happy to talk when the conversation is going to be pleasant and polite.
2. Remember that your chosen path is different from theirs. It is not better. Their path is as right for them as your path is right for you.
3. Make sure that what you say and what you do is grounded in love and concern for them and yourself.
4. Make sure they know that you are not rejecting them. You are just choosing a different spiritual path. For starters talk more about the commonalities rather then the differences. If communications stay open there will be plenty of time to discuss the differences.
5. Reassure them that you have not gone off and joined some strange cult.
BB
Pablito
2006-07-23 16:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pablito 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in you’re shoes about 5 years ago. This is what I did and everything turned out ok.
I told my parents we needed to talk. We sat down and I asked them not to say anything until I was done. I told them that have respect them and their beliefs. I told them that I believe in treating the earth as our life giver. I feel that all religions view the same spirit or essence in different ways (to help them understand that I really did respect them) and that I view that spirit a little differently than they did. My dad got up and made some coffee, then sat down and told me to just be careful. They said that I was old enough to find my own way in life and if I felt strong in my conviction then they could respect my feelings. We spent about 4 hours talking and I felt a lot better after, I didn’t have to sneak around to go to coven meetings (I was in a coven at the time, but left it to work on my own), and do rituals.
You have to expect the worst and hope for the best. They will have a lot of questions, some you will be able to answer and some you won’t. they will have to accept that this is what makes sense to you, but that you have respect for them.
You have to tell them that you don’t worship or believe in the devil & that you don’t sacrifice animals or anything else. You might want to give them a book about it to help them understand it, Scott Cunningham has books on being a solitary witch, so does Silver Raven Wolf (try Teen Witch from Silver Raven Wolf) it will give them the basics on the beliefs, and working witches do. It will also help them understand you plan to do good magicks and want to make the world a better place.
Good luck
Blessed be
PS
i was 16 when i came out of the Broom closet. i haven't been that scared before or sence.
i hope it works out for you.
blessed be.
2006-07-23 16:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by s_an_dubois 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the short answer is to just do it. Just bring it up in conversation or set some time aside and have a discussion with them about it. Explain why you want to be Wiccan and why you don't want to follow their religious beliefs.
The other way is a bit slower, but it may work as well if you truly want to guage their attitude.
The other way is to tell them that someone you know is Wiccan and explain to them what the person you know told you about the Wiccan belief systems.
Explain it to them as if your interested in the subject and that you found the belief system to be interesting. See what their attitude is and go from there.
Love as always,
Sebastian
2006-07-23 15:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by octo_boi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a degree in Science or Engineering to find out how the universe works, or in History to study the effects of religion on mankind, then from an informed perspective, consider the merits of various religions.
2006-07-23 15:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by 自由思想家 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them you're gay and a communist and you do LSD. Then, the Wiccan thing won't seem like such a big deal.
PS: You may have to rethink whether Wiccan is "perfect" for you. If it truly were "perfect," you would not have practiced it in secret. You would have told everyone as soon as you realized it was "perfect."
2006-07-23 15:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not sure how to say this-if wiccan is your choice-you dont practice it you live it-not necessary to tell anyone -if asked just tell them and go on-wiccan is a very easy and loving path-its kind of hard to hide and shouldnt be it is a very good way to live---keep the peace lots of love old hippie here
2006-07-23 15:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by bergice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it isn't really necessary that they know, just don't tell them. As far as my parents know, I'm still a christian, because I don't want to deal with all the arguing that would happen if they knew I was agnostic.
2006-07-23 15:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to convert them, do not tell them.
If you want them to save you, you choose what you believe.
If you're tired of the charade, just decline to attend services, and if they ask why, just be honest.
Don't be too scared, the church has stopped burning heretics.
2006-07-23 15:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Chronic Observer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i would just tell your parrents. and stay true to the path you take. do not let anyone sway you on what you beleave. it is in your heart. just wack that path, and know there are many out there with your. Blessed Be!
2006-07-23 15:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by kaindragon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋