I have been chatting with a guy for about a year now. And we revealed how we feel about each other a month ago. He is now deployed in Iraq and will be home the first of sep.Is this crazy that i have feelings for him and have never met him. We live about 3 hours away when he comes back to the states. Am I completely crazy for feeling this way?
2006-07-23 08:21:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
online dating dose work. it just don't work for me. I believe that poeple can find love on the net. I know my sister and my cousin did and my sister has been with the person she met online for about 6 years and married for the past 3
2006-07-23 08:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met a man about 6 and a half years ago online.we started out as friends..then 6 months later he asked if I wanted to meet him...he offered to send me a round trip plane ticket and I could stay the 2 weeks at his parents home instead of with him(out of respect).I said yes..it was WONDERFUL! He is so sweet and cute and hard working and very very respectful and honest.
I'm happy to say that last April we celebrated 5 years of marital bliss :)
It doesn't work for everyone but it sure worked for us.I have a few friends who met their now husbands online too.
You never know where you'll find love.
2006-07-23 15:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
monica, you have heard of both sides of the coin on this one, the nightmares and the fairey tales. if you are a smart cookie you have been watching for red flags and watching to see if he contridicts himself. and you also know that when online things can have a tendacy to be more exciting ( somthing you cant have, you crave more.) i personaly think people are more open when they first meet then in real life online your more proned to be a lil less guarded and talk about things normal face to face couples shy away from (kinks and fetishes and such) but the flip side is you dont realy get to see the temporment and bad habbits you can only take his word that he only has the bad habbits he has told you often times bad habbits are not even noticed by the person who has them.. now that i have said all this. i met a woman who lived in wyoming and i live in florida she had planns to move back to florida where her mother lived but had to stay there for her sons medical situation so we talked alot and although she promised i took the we will see attitude all the while i was falling head over heals for her. she did come to florida and we did date and later decided to merge her and her three kids togther with me and my two children. a year later we tied the knot and just past our 1st anniverserie and each day we look back and we are more and more in love and we attribute the fact that we both learned alot about each other just writing. we couldnt see facial reactions so it made talking easier then face to face. we do suffer though when we say we met online by those that say online dating is wrong. we have both been married before and divorced long before we even met each other online. yes you are crazy would be my answer , but enjoy the hell out of it but be very optimistic and cuatiouse becuase your first online may not be perfect in person and be very smart about it after you two meet. remeber he is in a very lonely spot right now and a very controlled enviroment. soo proceede with caution, but enjoy this giddy feeling you have a right to be crazy and enjoy it have fun and when you speak to your man in iraq tell him we back in the states thank him from the bottom of our heart, he is our hero......
2006-07-23 15:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not unsual to fall for someone when we hear all the things that we want to hear and please us or, in this case all the things we want to read. Chatting for a year is ok... but since you live so close wait until he returns and date him a while before you decide anything. My daughter has married 3 on line romances and married 3 so far 2 went by the wayside and there is no reason for me to beleive that this one will finally work. There is nothing like the old fashion romances... sometimes the match dating works like E-Harmony .com , I have known a couple of sucesses.... on failures so far.
2006-07-23 15:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated online. Met her been with her 10 years and married her 3 years ago. Best thing I ever did. But watch out for nuts online too.
2006-07-23 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by zowulf1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not crazy. But be realistic and careful. Don't meet for the first time in a private place. Make it public. Make sure a trusted friend of family member know exactly where you are meeting and make specific times you are to call him/her to assure him/her you are safe and they are to call the authorities if they don't hear from you.
2006-07-23 15:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Calina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I NEVER BELIEVED IN ONLINE DATING OR THE DATING SITES, BUT ONE DAY I WAS TALKING TO A PERSON ABOUT ONE OF MY CREDIT CARDS AND WE GOT TO TALKING ABOUT DATING..I SAID NO WAY, IM TOO FAT TO DATE ANYONE SO SHE SUGGESTED LARGE FRIENDS, I TRIED IT AND GOT TONS OF RESPONSES FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD.. I ANSWERED SOME, OTHERS I E MAILED THAT I WASNT INTERESTED AND THEN I FOUND A GUY AND WE HAVE BEEN ON YAHOO MESSENGER WITH VOICE FOR SEVERAL MONTH NOW, I KNOW ITS CRAZY BUT ALL I EVER DO IS THINK ABOUT HIM, I LIVE IN THE UNITED STATES AND HE LIVES IN ENGLAND, I KNOW THERE IS NO CHANCE OF ME GOING THERE OR HIM COMING HERE BUT I CANT GET HIM OFF MY MIND....I SUGGEST IF YOU DO GO ON A DATING SITE MAKE SURE HES IN YOUR AREA OR CLOSE ENOUGH TO YOU SO YOU DONT WIND UP LIKE ME......GOOD LUCK
2006-07-23 15:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Relationships are built on a variety of things and sharing can be accomplished just as easily on line these days then in person. However, you have never met. I would believe your feelings may be a little premature considering that fact.
2006-07-23 15:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by blackwind45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife on the net
She is LOVELY
Be very careful when and where you first meet them.
Get him to meet you on ground that you know, have a chaperone, and when the chaperone dissopears, have a 3rd person that you know in the vicinity who have not made themselves known to your beau.
if you are safe I hope all goes well for you. Make Sure You are Safe, before you is on own with him
2006-07-23 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your feelings are completely normal. You have found a channel to express your feelings and through this experience have found someone you can communicate intimitely with. No need to second guess the whole process.
2006-07-23 15:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Myles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋