my daughter is 8 her best friend is also 8 and a family member she constanly says things to my daughter about how much more money her father makes and how they can get everything they want and go to all these different places. well we live within our means we go place that are affordable and i get my daughter the things she need not unnecessary stuff like cellphones, 100.00 allowances a week etc. and its not only about the money that her father makes (illegally might i add) but she says things like im smaller than you which she isnt , or my ahir is longer than yours or im prettier. it doesnt bother me but my daughter being 8 feels offended and says things like i wish my dad made more money and i wish i was half white so i can have long hair, and also thinks shes fat when in reality she actually underweight for her height
2006-07-23 08:21:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to your daughter the differences between her and this friend, do not try and stop them from interacting with eachother because than this is something that may be held against you.
Being 8 years old and having a cell phone is sick.
2006-07-23 08:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by LavishFashion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age they take things so personally. I feel for her. I think you should confront the girl. If she says something like im prettier than you. I would say to her "that is your opinion but actually i think my daughter is very beautiful and thats not nice to say to her". If she brags about her money i would say " money isnt the most inportant thing and we are happy with what we have, thats so sad that you feel money is so important" just keep making her think about everything she is saying but be nice about it and after time i think she will get the idea. If it doesnt stop i would think about getting your daughter involved with other friends. Also just keep telling your daughter that she is blessed to have a family that loves her so much and she shouldnt feel that she is not very beautiful, smart, etc.
2006-07-23 08:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your daughter and talk to her. Explain to her that people say things like that, not because they are true but because they are hurtful and make the person saying them feel better about themselves. Let her make the decision whether she wants to see this other little girl or not. This will have a more positive result in the long run.
Good luck; self esteem is a very fragile thing.
2006-07-23 08:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter about how different families live and what makes her different and unique. Maybe you can speak to the parents about her behavior if you really want your daughter to continue hanging out with the best friend. In my opinion, I don't think you should let your daughter continue hanging out with her...she may be a bad influence in the future considering what you said about her father. Good luck!
2006-07-23 09:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids will be kids.. no let your daughter decide what she wants as her friends sooner or later she'll say something to stick up for her and the family.. Obviously you are a good loving parent. she will grow knowing you did the best that you could do. and she will love you for that. It will only make your daughter see the reality of life and the truth of life from you...keep up the good work..she will be fine
2006-07-23 08:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to what's going on then an 8yr old telling your 8yr old those things. You have to know that the 8yr old has heard those things from someone in her family. Good luck
2006-07-23 08:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say get ur child a new best friend. so ur husband makes money illegally... not smart posting it on-line.
2006-07-23 08:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by demonique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋