I don't believe in "Soul Mates" in reality, but I know people perceive them to exist. . .?

Question

My question is:

Would you rather be married to someone you considered YOUR soul mate, but this spouse didn't have such intense feelings toward you,

OR:

Be married to someone who considered you THEIR soul mate, but you didn't share such intense feelings.

Either way, there is love and respect from both partners.

Please tell us your choice and why, also include your gender and roundabout age (ie. M-late 20's, F-mid 40's, etc).

I'm curious to see if gender and age have any trends or if the answers are largely universal.

Thanks so much for answering!!

Answer 1

To someone who consider me as their soulmate, but no intense feelings because I don't want 2 hurt the guy.....I'd rather be miserable than see them miserable...
Thats the payback from me for truly loving me


Female, 13, San Diego

Answer 2

My boyfriend and I debate about this a lot. First you must define soulmate.

He defines soulmate as that person on this planet who is just your perfect match, with whom you can completely and totally be yourself, at your soul's level.

I define soulmate as someone with which you feel a strong supernatural connection. In my definition, your soulmate might be someone you would never be with romantically, sort of like a kindred spirit is how I see soulmate.

So... if we go with my boyfriend's definition then I think it is more than entirely possible to find your soulmate, but only if you are going to be willing to expose yourself at the soul's level... because otherwise your partner would never fully get to know you, the real you deep down.

I think both of those hypothetical situations are not ideal, also because I believe that feelings go two ways, that if you feel someone is your soulmate, then if they truly are, they will feel it the same way back. So I guess I didn't totally answer your question, but maybe I illuminated the subject a little.

I'm female, mid-twenties.

Answer 3

I think I would rather be the one who thought the other was my soul-mate. I am good at loving, but not good at pretending to love someone if I don't. I am female, age 52, and have been told I have unrealistic expectations about relationships because I still have romantic illusions (delusions?). If you're just in it for friendship, though, I feel, why bother to marry...whatever?

Answer 4

soul mates can't exist because if they did alot of people would be with the wrong other half. any realationship can feel right when love and respect are involved. i'd prefer to marry someone who loved me...and i loved back. female

Answer 5

hey i believe in the same thing isn't it funny how people think they belong together but they end lining or cheat or they get tired of each other ya feel the same way crazy how life is isn't it