My boyfriend and I were having a serious conversation(arguing) the other the day and he stated that he believes that I'm forcing myself to care about him. I've never thought about it actually and sometimes it seems that way. I don't know what to think. HELPPPPP!!!!????!!!!
2006-07-23 07:38:08 · 16 answers · asked by way2clase 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, sometimes a feeling of obligation and/or fear of being alone can lead to a person trying to force themselves to remain in a relationship. But forced feelings are very unsatisfying. Bitterness, resentment and disappointment often surface as a result of forcing what doesn't fit. If your feelings for your mate don't flow freely, then you've got problems. You need to do some serious thinking about why you are with him. If it's not because you really desire to be and want to share yourself with him, then you are cheating yourself and him. However, if you know in your heart that you are committed to him and you love him freely without hesitation, let him know through your actions as opposed to your words. Show him.
2006-07-23 07:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless somewhere deep inside you feel like you'd have no where else to go/no one else to be with and are afraid to lose him then yes you might be "forcing" yourself to love him. Otherwise I don't see how that could work. Love is a feeling and you either have it or you don't. If you don't think you're just afraid of losing him then I would say you have nothing to worry about. Good luck!
2006-07-23 14:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jon J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look inside yourself and find out if you really truly do care about him. Think ... if something happened to him, would you be really concerned and be there for him just because you felt you had to or because you really were worried about him because you loved him. Find a conclusion and tell him what your real feelings are.
2006-07-23 14:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can force your self to care for someone, however it's not that hard to tell if you are. 1. are you only spening time with him when he wants you to and avoiding him otherwise. 2. do you feel like even if he got interested in someone else you wouldn't care. etc., etc.
2006-07-23 14:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by siddragoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats exactally what you should do is think about whether you really care about the relationship or just being friends. Life is too short.
2006-07-23 14:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forceful feeling has a bad effect on both of you. Let it be.
2006-07-23 14:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you can "force" yourself to like someone b/c if you are w/someone, you can really, really want to like them. Then, you eventually have yourself believing that you do rather you truly do or not.
2006-07-23 14:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't believe you can "force" yourself to care about someone, you either do or you don't.
2006-07-23 14:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope he has to have the same feelings for you trust me i wanted it to be so bad but you cant force your feelings on someone who don't want you that is just wishful thinking i know it is sad but it is!!
2006-07-23 14:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he knows you more than you know yourself. Hmmm....
You need time to get more in touch with yourself then you wouldn't be doubting your heart
2006-07-23 14:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋