My friend and I have liked each other for many years now but when we first met I was still in high school and Mom wouldn't let me date. Now I'm out of school we're still friends but he often says I intimidate him. ( Don't know why). He just broke up with his girl friend couple monthes ago( partly because she's controling and erased my # out of his phone) but now keeps saying he doesn;t want to date any one until he starts his career. Yet he calls and we talk for hours. I reallly like him but don't know how to make him realize that I'd be there for him while he goes after that career. I'm not sure if that's all holding him back. What should I do.
2006-07-23 07:27:43 · 15 answers · asked by babig221982 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, the "you intimidate me" thing sends up a red flag to me. What that means to me is that you will probably try to compensate for that by appearing more timid and subservient - which starts changing who you are. It would probably be really nice to just simply say that you will be there for him in the capacity that you can be AND I think he already knows that, but just in case he doesn't..... :) And don't forget about your plans in the meantime, while you're not holding him back :)
2006-07-23 07:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok...
Well, if you'll be there for him, then you'll be there for him.
So be there for him.
Holding him back from what, exactly? Falling madly in love with you, buying an island so that you two can live happily ever after eating coconuts?
Read your question and you will see that you talked yourself right into a box. Apparently, you have some ulterior motive than "being there for him"...if you want him to "not hold back." What you say makes no sense at all. Think about it.
Maybe that is exactly the kind of dichotomy and wishy-washiness he knows to avoid if he wants to have a great career?
2006-07-23 07:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a smart girl.
sort out the other parts of your life (financial, career etc)
Let him know how you feel, and that you are willing to be a friend until he can make a commitment to you.
ask why it is that you intimidate him, and how you can be less scary.
go after what you want.
2006-07-23 07:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect his wishes because it could be a lot of reason he's doing this may be his career might interfere with an relationship If he's looking out for you he's a cool guy cause most guy's wouldn't even care.
2006-07-23 07:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by K-SOLO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you want to go out to dinner, when he gets there to pick you up tell him in the car that you want to be with him and your not taking no for answer. LOL, that's phyco, no just tell him that you are not pushing him but you would like to be there for him and your afraid that you will lose him. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 12:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has given you his answer. Chances are, if you keep pushing it, you will end up pushing him away. Try backing off a bit, and let him miss some of those nice calls so he'll realize what he could have...
2006-07-23 07:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by mizchulita 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel. Dont hold anything back, that would be the worst thing you could ever do. Be upfront with him and tell him that you would support him with his career.
2006-07-23 08:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him and explain ur feelings for him. myabe he just doesnt want to mess up ur friendship. u should tell him how you feel and atleas give him a chance to answer ur feelings you. and if he tells u hes not intrested you couldmove on instead of wondering what could have been.
2006-07-23 08:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by flyingy85 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U LADY NEED 2 LISTEN.HE SAID HE WILL NOT DATE.INTIL AFTER HIS CAREER!!!!!so like many chics u still try and force it on him!!!!!after all do u think your.Y is better than his ex g/f's?
2006-07-23 07:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋