i asked my boyfriend if he regrets asking me out ... and he never replied to me ... he kept changing the subject ... and it hurts alot ... he dint deny da fact dat he regrets ... i dunno wat to do ...
Someone pls tell me what to do ... dumping him is not an option ... so pls ... advice !
2006-07-23 07:10:27 · 21 answers · asked by Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If dumping is not an option, then you need to stay together. It seems obvious. Who cares about how he handled that stupid question?
2006-07-23 07:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are asking the wrong question. Your question kind of sounds like that old joke where someone asks you if you are still beating your wife. Whether you answer yes or no, you seem to be admitting that you beat your wife. Maybe you should re-examine your original question and determine what it is that you are truely wanting to know. You need to have a clear grasp in your own head of what information it is that you are trying to get from your boyfriend. And may I be so bold to ask, why is breaking up not an option. I would think that it is always an option for both you AND him. It sounds like you may have some issues with your own self image that you may need to work on if you say breaking up isn't an option. Maybe try to emotionaly distance yourself from the issue and see if you can arrive at a logical solution then. In any case I hope you can come thru this situation with an expanded understanding of yourself. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-23 07:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by duncanelectronicstexas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he regreted asking you out...do you think that he would still being going out with you?...sounds to me like you need to work on your own insecurities a bit...because if there is one thing that will turn a man completely off...like real quick...it is a woman who is insecure...dumping him is not an option?...wtf does that mean?...perhaps you have more serious issues than you think...if he treats you well...then of course you don't want to "dump" him over something so trivial...but if he is controlling and doesn't treat you like a lady...then why on earth would you make such a statement?...you may as well be telling the entire world..."hey...my self esteem is so low...that i will just settle for whatever...'cause dumping him is not an option...no matter what he ever does"...not exactly what i would call a mature healthy relationship...i think that there is way more to this than you are letting on...it is not the first time you have been hurt...but if "dumping him" is not an option...then suffer!!!...and good luck to you
2006-07-23 07:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure why dumping him is not an option. It seems to me to be the best one. But, if you really just can't, then don't - but try letting him think you're not taking it so seriously. Act cool, calm and collected. Sometimes men like a little mystery - "does she or doesn't she love me?" Stay available but don't appear greedy.
2006-07-23 07:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell would you ask your boyfriend if he regrets asking you out?? You guys need to talk. If something is wrong don't just let it slide, because that's how relationships fail. Trust me I've lost an incredible girl all because of a lose of open communication. Just talk to him. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jon J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask why he keeps avoiding the subject every time you ask. He should realize that it is disrespectful to not answer such a serious question. You deserve an answer from him and you should tell him that since you might be in a relationship that you're wasting your time on. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is dumping him not an option? Because other than that I can't think of anything else to tell you. I mean why would you want to be with someone that appartently doesn't want to be with you, I mean you have heartace now or later which ever you prefer. I mean he is all but telling you that he regrets ever meeting you, so there is no future, I mean if he already wishes he hadn't met you do you really think that he is going to stay with you. Please think about this..........................
2006-07-23 07:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't dumping him an option? I think maybe he just doesn't like the question, that why he changes the topic. Obviously if he is with you then he doesn't regret his decision, don't worry!!!
2006-07-23 07:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and look at how you treat him and act towards him, this maybe it. If you are always the one making plans and such or changing his plans because it is something you do not want to do then be a little bit more giving. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to remember is that no matter how strong the urge is, you should never ask questions if you're not prepared to hear the answer, or lack thereof. In my opinion you are looking for him to validate his feelings for you becuase you're feeling insecure in your relationship with him. My advice would be to look inside yourself and find out what it is that you're not getting out of the relationshiop that is causing you to feel insecure.
2006-07-23 07:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by coolnessa8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋