I really do not get on with my family (mum, dad and brother). Im 24 and the eldest and my parents always take my brothers side. He has brought several cars (hes 21) in his life. I havent even had one!
I want one now and my parents are saying no. I mean Im 24 and an adult! They just dont want me having any freedom. I just want to get out of this house and go off and live elsewhere! :(
2006-07-23 07:07:43 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just for the record, I have a job and a bf. Im a university graduate about to do an MBA in October.
2006-07-23 07:19:28 · update #1
I have had family problems in my life too. Do the best you can. Just get a job and your own place. You are of age. You do not need your parents permission to get a car! Good luck!
2006-07-23 07:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If your 24 then your old enough to make your own decision and
if you have a good paying job then go buy yourself a car.
Remember your Job is your Credit. Your parents should treat
you and your brother equally. I have a big family and when we were younger, I felt the same way. But I, knew if I needed help
my parents were always there to help. Just do things on your
own and maybe your parents might have a change of heart.
You are old enough to get your own Apt. and if you can't afford it
by yourself then get a room mate. Help each other out. If you
have a long time guy-friend then that's even better. Look around
for a affordable place to stay.
2006-07-23 07:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say "hate" since I hate no one. But I have no contacts with the few remaining relatives I theoretically have. Being an only child (and my father was one also), and having lost several family members during WW-II, there are not many of us left anyway. My father died when I was still a little boy, my mother is married a second time for ages now, and we never had a great relationship anyway. So as it is, I don't have to think much of my "family", since - realistically - there is none left. I don't mind.
2006-07-25 09:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sean F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very annoying when parents treat u like a kid when u're already a responsible adult. But to your parents u will always be a child. They may have their own reasons for not allowing you to get a car. Maybe their worried about your safety or driving skills? Talk to them. Tell them about how you feel when they treat you like that and see what their response is. They're not gonna change overnight. It's a gradual process but once they accept that their little girl or boy is not so young anymore they'll eventually give in. Don't worry, things will get better. I speak from experience!:) Good luck and take care.
2006-07-23 08:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by miss_gorgyus 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 24 and an adult you shouldn't still be living with mummy and daddy.
If you class yourself as an adult why aren't you living in your own place, of course they are going to treat you as a child you still live in your little girls bedroom & probably get your meals cooked & laundry done for you.
Act like an adult & maybe they will be more likely to help you out or maybe you just have to save up yourself to get one.
I'm a grown up if I want something I save for it, you should be doing the same not expecting hand outs all the time.
You should be able to afford it as you are still living at home & don't have to pay council tax, water rates, rent, tv licence, electric etc
2006-07-23 07:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're waaaay too spoiled for your age! You want a car? Work for one, you're old enough! My mother didn't have a car until I was 14 or something. And be grateful that you have a home and a family who raised you with food on the table and clothes to wear, unlike many, many unfortunate children in the world. You want to be treated as an adult? Start acting like one. You're of age=>your parents are through with any responsibility they've had towards you. All they do for you now is favours out of the goodness of their heart. Be grateful you have them and don't go online whining that you hate them, you'll miss them when they're gone. There are too many poor orphans and abused children in this world for me not to be outraged when i see a grown-up "hating his family" for not buying him a car! Well, buuu-huu!
2006-07-23 07:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by ioa_3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will like them more once you have moved out. You shouldn't hate them because they are not providing you with things. You are 24, so go and get it for yourself. You should not let jealousy of your sibling divide you and your family. Some parents like to do the favoritism thing I know, but the best way to deal with that is to become independent and show everyone that you don't need them. They will respect you more for that trust me.
2006-07-23 07:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to buy a car then you go and buy a car, you do not need your parents permission to have a car and like you say you are an adult. Just remember that they are not cheap to run and you will have to fork out for everything yourself, road tax, MOT, Insurance and anything that goes wrong, today I just had to fork out £300 pounds on new tyres, my tax is due £175 and I need an MOT probably £120
2006-07-23 07:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by topjock28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been There done that, Best thing you can do is leave and be independent things will never change if you are now 24 you will always take second place but when they see you can make it on your own they will be secretly proud and your brother will be the jealous one, Worked for me. Good Luck
2006-07-23 07:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by PAUL H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you mean but dont hate them for it.
i know its not much consolation but they could be alot worse.
even if you struggle financially i still think you you need to move out and live with your bf or alone and then you will get your freedom as well as respect from your parents.
just try to be more adult about this situation and by being adult about i mean not caring so much about being treated equally to your brother, instead be glad that you can make your own life by yourself and buy your own things like your own car cos that would be an achievement and one that your parents will have to recognise
2006-07-23 07:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a big word, just because you haven't got what you want doesn't mean you have to hate for it, I despair of my family but don't hate them, try talking to your parents and ask them why they seem to favour everything your brother says and dismiss you, have they paid part of your fees to get through University, well if they have maybe they think they have give your brother help too, talking is a good thing so try talking to them but don't hate them you might just end up regretting saying that one day.
2006-07-23 11:42:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋