she has a smart mouth and thinks she is invincible. grounding her doesnt work. i am a single mom with little patience left.
2006-07-23 06:37:35 · 37 answers · asked by NursieAngie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Send her to the kitchen pick out a utensil and use that. I'm not for constant child abuse but a child needs to know who is the boss. I got spankings constantly until i was 16. And i turned out OK. At 13 she is still very much a child. When i was 13 i thought i was invincible too. I soon learned from my daddy that i wasn't. And since you are a single mother you have to stand your ground. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Belle 3 · 4⤊ 5⤋
I had the same problem with my mom. Tell her to leave.. That's what it took to get it in my head. Let her go to the store to cool off or something, then she can only come back when she apologizes and has her head right. When I got kicked out, I walked around Rite Aid for 2 hours, until I got up the nerve to call her and apologize, because without her, I have no place to go, really. Even if she goes to stay at a friends house, that's not long lasting and soon her friend or her friends family won't want anything to do with it. I went through that to, and several of my friends, and it always ends up that nobody can love us like our parents can. But you have to understand and realize that teenagers have problems and they are hard headed, lol... It takes a little more patience than you feel like you are having at the moment.. Good luck.
2006-07-23 06:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Bible says, spare the rod and spoil the child. Words my father lived by. I turned out fine, and carried those words thru into my fatherhood. When my children needed a spanking, I spanked them. They soon learned that when I said something I meant it. I haven't had to spank either of them since they were roughly 9-11.
Spanking a child is not the same as beating them. Beating a child is never acceptable.
Society today says that spanking is unacceptable, that time outs are the way to go. RIGHT! I see friends with children that use time outs...talk about horrid litttle brats. If a child doesn't respect authority, they will never see boundaries as they should.
Even when my kids were growing up, they were always better behaved than my friends kids that used time outs.
2006-07-23 06:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is it wrong? Are you kidding me???
Hell NO it's not wrong. In most cases, that's the only thing that will work. Spank her butt hard, make it hurt and scare her...pretty soon she'll stop smarting off to you for fear of the spanking.
Trust me, it worked for me.
PS Don't listen to these idiots who are telling you spanking is wrong and your child will call the cops on you. As long as you're not hitting her in the face and leaving marks, or making her bleed, it's not illegal. A cop told me once he spanks his children and there's nothing illegal about it.
There's nothing wrong with your parental skills and you don't need to go to classes like this other moron said in an earlier post. Some kids are just rotten smartasses and need spanked. My Dad spanked me and my Mom didn't. Whenever I did something wrong, I knew I was gonna get spanked, so I stopped what I doing. And I still knew my Dad loved me...just because I got spanked didn't mean I thought he hated me. It's just discipline; it's not like he was just hitting me for the fun of it.
Spank her a$$ - and make sure it hurts.
You might feel bad or sorry for her afterwards, but that'll go away soon because you won't have to spank her anymore because she'll start listening to you.
2006-07-23 06:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I do think it's wrong to spank your 13 yr old daughter. You have to remember what it was like when you were that age. I'm sure you didn't want to be spanked/punished. I'm sure she doesn't either. There's obviously a reason as to why she's acting out in certian ways. She may just want your attention or attention of others. All young teens go through that and I'm sure that you did too when you were her age.
I'm not a mother, but I do watch two little girls. I know they test my buttons. Just stay calm with her, I know it's hard, but try. Work with her and do things with her. When you talk to her, listen to her and don't talk to her face actually look at her and look in her eyes and try to envision what she's feeling. She needs you right now at this point in her life because things are only going to get harder as she grows up. Good luck!
2006-07-23 06:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by ambm123082 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At 13 she should know the difference between wrong and right. Sadly at 13 they sorta reach the end of spankings. If grounding doesnt work, try it again but ENFORCE it...children learn by us parents being consistent in our punishments. Take away something she adores(tv phone etc)...restrict her time out with her friends. Have patience hon...its only a phase. They do outgrow it.
2006-07-23 06:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rev. Morgan 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I hope you never wake up moody and get mouthy to her because she'll have a right to slap you.
Well, equal rights, fairs fair!!!
If you spank her, you are teaching her it's ok to lash out when annoyed.
Isn't a good role model to teach them to mature and become less mouthy?
It requires a lot of patience and so much tongue biting but believe it is well worth it. You'll be better off sending her to coventry, ignore her tantrums and stand your ground by being firm but fair.
Our teenagers are here to teach us lessons too, but lets not make it too hard for ourselves by creating a battleground within the home, enough of them in the world without fighting among our own.
Your daughter will respect you more if you go and chat to her once shes got over the mouthy part, let her calm down.
You have to become deaf and dumb but it is our best bet to beat the teenager brat stage and keep our best friend too :D:D:D
Got headphones?
Use them when her mouth gets too much!!!! ;) ;) but it keeps you calm and allows her to scream out her piece and then chat time comes when the kettle has stopped boiling :D
2006-07-23 06:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by WW 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Thirteen is a little old to spank. If it is her mouth, it is hard not to slap but you never hit a child in the face. It sets off anger. Kids these days don't realize consequences so she might report you just to be mean. My experience has been to take away something that is dear to her. Reinforce consequences. It is a life lesson that will be good for her. If the first thing you take away doesn't work, take away something else until she doesn't have anything left.
2006-07-23 07:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Karen E 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Wrong? No. Slightly weird? I think so. I understand that grounding doesn't work, but you should start taking away the things she cares about....which could be anything, from the computer, phone, make-up, stuff like that. Make sure the consequences of her smart mouth are harsh enough, and make sure they stick. Don't let her walk all over you. It's your house.
2006-07-23 06:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is the age when you can start building a healthy relationship with your kid, one that makes the transition from being a parent to a confidant and a friend. Also spanking doesnt slove any issues, there are other ways of letting her know that there can be consequences of bad behaviour.
Keep your cool. It is a more troublesome period for her.It will pass.
2006-07-23 06:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋