see I post a question saying how could a person get over being scared of getting married. I was with a guy for 11 years he wanted to get married and I didn't. All I thought about when I hear to word marriage was money. How much will it be to get divorce. Now because of my fear I left his house but still with him.
2006-07-23 06:35:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would seek a counselor or a therapist to help me find out why I had this fear, I would certainly ask the 11 year relationship man to come with me. I would not throw that away if you love him. Good luck.
2006-07-23 06:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrage can be scarey but it is great if you are willing to work at it. Most people are scared because society instills the fear in us because the new is always talking about the divorce rate and the television programs always show messed up marrages. Dont worry. Take a deep breath and take the plunge. You will not regret it. By the way, you can get a divorce st some places for $400.
2006-07-23 13:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond Freak :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared of commitment because, you may have did wrong in the past in a previous relationship you were in. But being committed is a serious thing. You also have to be ready for it so you may want to settle down first even if you do plan on getting married.
2006-07-23 13:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jazmine L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of marriage did your parents have and how did they treat you?
We tend repeat the type of relationship our parents had as it is the first example we seen and it's ingrained into our behavior patterns. It can be overcome by being aware of it and making the effort.
Did your parents ignore you or did anything to make you feel unloved and worthless? You may feel that you don't deserve the love and commitment from another human being that marriage offers. You might benefit from seeing a therapist if that's the case.
Good luck dear.
2006-07-23 13:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not with the right person. So many people go into a marriage with idea of "if I don't like it, I can just get a divorce". That is the wrong way to look at marriage. You go in to marriage with the concept for better or for worse for richer or for poorer to death do we part. If you can not see spending the rest of your life with this person you are with the wrong person.
2006-07-23 13:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by clb1101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that scared to commit to him and your first thought was how much is a divorce going to cost, chances are he's not the one for you.
2006-07-23 15:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c marriage is financial agreement
you can live with someone and still have the same love as if you were married
your just not ready, take ur time, no one should rush you
good luck
2006-07-23 13:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are afraid of committment. Probably from a broken home, like most of us. You just have to be able to trust the person you choose to be committed to.
2006-07-23 13:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is saying you will be there till death........its not for everyone............do your thing and if he loves you he won't sweat you....make sure you keep your money separate and enter into relationships like a business merger.You should be happy then.
2006-07-23 13:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bc marriage is a LIFETIME commitment and there are a lot of things to consider when deciding marriage
2006-07-23 13:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋