can somebody do some research for me and help me with a strategy to get out?

Question

i live in ruff neighbour hood with aggressive youths and i have mental health problems, high levels of anxiety constantly, anger probs, difficult to control, racing thoughts, low moods. and i live around recklass hooligans, antisocial thugs, if you wanna know the type to give you a better picture google, (english soccer thugs/ hooligans)~ what youll find or see is similar to the sorts of neighbors i have to live around. im just wondering if anyone out there can maybe do a bit of research on the internet for me about agencies and strategies on how i could get out of my situation and who could help. cheers

Answer 1

I lived in a very rough town, and new I needed to make a change. There was a song lyric that kind of inspired me:

"...Leave tonight or live and die this way..." (Tracy Chapman)

A whole series of events just finally lead up to "the straw that broke the donkey's back" and I knew it was just time to leave.

So this is basically what I did.

1. Researched where you want to go to.
The City should have:
A. Low unemployment. (Plenty of Jobs to go around)
B. Low crime rate. Low incidence of Violent Crime.
C. Highly rated schools (a sign the city puts $ into the community)
D. High levels of Culture: Parks, Museums, Bands, Theaters, Zoo, etc. (A sign of general affluence)
E. Higher education Opportunities
F. Relgious organizations
G. Tolerance

*Note I didn't mention:
Family
People you know
Climate you like
Geographic Features you Prefer (i.e. Beach/ Mountains etc.)

To improve your life this second group can actually hinder your progress. It can be impossible to start over, if people you know are trying to keep you in the lifestyle of the "old" you.

***Sometimes you have to make a clean break***

2. Make an estimate of the bare minimum amount of money it would take to get you there, and get settled. People ALWAYS over estimate this amount. This keeps people from reaching for a better life.

Even if all you could afford is a buss ticket. At least you would be homeless in a city with better opportunity and low violence, than homeless in a place that holds you back and you have a high chance of getting shot while you are with your "friends". So isn't it better after all? That really isn't anything to lose....

Think about how you will get there, Will you drive your car (price of gas, and food on the way); will you have to take a bus (ticket price and food)? Will you stay in a shelter until you are on your feet (free but restrictive and theft issues)? Will you stay in a pay by the week hotel? ($200-$300 a week) Can you arrange to rent a room near a college before you get there (Cheap but hard to arrange out of state)? Possibly camping?

How will you raise funds before you leave? Do you have a job now? Can you get a job? Do you have any skills? Baby sitting, Baking, Cleaning, Painting, and Gardening? Carwash? Carpentry?

If you are bringing your car, these are items you can bring with you:
Work Clothes, 2 casual outfits, 2 towels, Shower Curtain, Frying Pan, Sauce Pan (pot), Cutting board, Knife, and computer.

Camping Gear if you have it already: Tent, sleeping bag, cook stove/ propane, cooler.

3.Once you have decided a City the minimum you need is transportation and a couple hundred dollars to start.

When I moved several states away:

We got out of our current lease at out apartment. Took our big furniture to "mini storage" since we had a nice bed and couches. Then the work clothes...down to computer got packed in the car. Everything else we took to a "block" yard sale. Which was a huge success. We got $400. I was able to return a piece of jewelry from Christmas and got some more cash.

That funded our drive out, and motel stays on the way out. Then we stayed in an "Extended Stay America" Hotel. It was basically like a studio apartment in a hotel where you paid by the week. So we could cook and have a fridge and everything.

Then we both got jobs working through a temp agency the first week we were in town. That paid on Friday, and rent was due on Sat. We had office skills so we were able to get office jobs, but there are many agencies that have work for industrial, or cleaning too.

Pretty much every major city has them, look in the phone book. Plan on a couple hours to go through the "interview process". Dress nice, and act like it is a regular job interview. Don't tell them your problems, etc. Just be cheerful, and eager to work.


Then you just have to focus on eating very cheaply to save money to afford a real apartment. Different states have different laws on what apartments can charge, but almost all of them will either charge First month and last month, or first and a deposit. I think most states it is illegal to charge, first, last and a deposit. They can have regulations on how much you have to earn. Like at least 3 times the rent.

Anyhow try to get out of the extended stay as soon as you can because it will suck up the money. Ours was $350 a week. If that was monthly, you could be in a house for that much money in our market ($1200)!

So be a penny pincher and get into a real apartment. We had to sleep on the floor for about a month and a half until we could pay a friend to drive our stuff out to us.

If you sold your stuff or never owned it in the first place, buy a futon from Target or Wal-Mart until you can afford a real bed. Sometimes the frame is lame, so you may just want to sleep on the cushion. Personal Preference.

Also you won't have any glasses, plates, bowls, forks, spoons, or butter knives. Wal-Mart has sets of 4 for cheap. You will only need 4 of anything so don't buy more if it is just you, or you plus 1 other person. The perk is that you can never have a really dirty kitchen if you don't own that much. Think of it as kind of "Zen"

Also buy Paper towels, a 100 ft roll of tin foil, Toilet paper, Bar soap, Shampoo, a Cheap broom, Liquid dish soap, Scrubber sponges, a Jug of Mr. Clean concentrate and a sprayer bottle to dilute it in (so much cheaper), plus "All Small & Mighty" Concentrated Laundry Cleaner".

-That should get your house up and running.

The next step is to find a desk/ table to put your computer on if you have one. And a couch. We went about a month and a half before we had any chairs to sit on. Strangely it made us kind of depressed. If you have any kind of extra cash and are ok with thrift stores go buy a table you can put your computer on, and also sit at if you want to eat dinner at the table. Some times that will be the only dignity you have, since they jobs you have will offer you none. The thrift store may also have some good couches; you may have to figure out a way to get it home though.

Once you are settled consider taking some community college classes to educate yourself and raise yourself to a higher place. You have already taken the hardest steps anyone can. The education is only riding on the momentum. At first take something you like as a reward, and to get in the habit. Then think about a career you would like to be successful in and meet with an advisor in a university. Often you can take 2 years at a lower college and then transfer. Develop a plan, and start chipping away.

Lastly. Even if you are not particularly religious, join a church. You will be in a new city without many friends, you need all the support you can get. A church provides an instant support group. People to go places with, and friends to hang out with. You may get invited to nice dinners at people's homes in the beginning too. This can help you fight the home sickness.

You will be exhausted beyond belief the first 3 months. You are making something out of nothing. Very few people have this kind of bravery. You are remaking yourself. But it is very worthy to do. It is the same kind of challenge as climbing Mt. Everest. It changes you if you can pull it off.

I commend you for even trying. God's Love.

Answer 2

Well, if you want to get out of your mental state, you might try this book, "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. David Burns. This will help with the anxiety, anger, racing thoughts, and low moods. It will also help a great deal to get into a more pleasant environment. You'll have to help yourself there. Start by going to a church and asking the pastor/preacher there.

'nuff said?

Answer 3

It's called the God of the Gaps argument. And yes. That's one of their favorites. 1) Evasion and Begging the Question. Also classic YEC moves. 2) Yeah. If they don't understand it themselves, which they rarely do, they'll repeat what some other idiot has said and cherry pick random things that they think support their claims. 3) Denigration is typical of YEC. It's an evasion tactic designed to put you on your guard and make your blood boil so that you'll slip up. That and they hate you and me and anyone who doesn't buy their daily sack of poo. 4)Yep. Apparently regurgitating wikipedia articles is research to those people. lol Chess with pigeons. Yes. Love it. Dawkins rules!

Answer 4

Go to your mental health center and look after your health first. Moving is not going to lower your rate of anxiety - proper medication and counseling will. Once you have dealt with that problem, you can then tackle the housing problem. Because frankly, if you have all these emotional problems and are not on medication or receiving counseling, I really don't want you in my neighborhood - stay where you are!

Answer 5

You need to move to a more civilized neighbourhood. Sell your property, or find a new apartment, whichever applies, and move.
LOCATION is the key.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

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http://www.nielsenhayden.com/makinglight/archives/005395.html
http://www.csmonitor.com/2001/0821/p7s1-woam.html
hope these have the information that will help you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

move