okay so my dad is half black half mexican & my mom is half japanese and half chinese. i live in an upperclass prodominatly white suburb. i got to an all white school (we have like 3 black kids) and im sooo tired of getting called a white girl by my black cousins. i know im not ms.ghetto or whatever and thats not what i want but i dont wanna be the white girl anymore. even white kids call me this! what to do...?
2006-07-23 06:05:00 · 14 answers · asked by lhsdancehayla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
opps.. multiracial my bad = ]
2006-07-23 06:14:28 · update #1
people love to categorize things and wrap them up in a box. eliminates having to think too much.
you sound like a very lucky person and you will grow to see that this is other people's problems, not yours. just be you. don't try to change, try to think of ways to respond. humour is usually great. practice in advance. your cousin call you white girl and you say 'that's po' white girl to you' or 'oh no, oh my god, is it true?" and run screaming to the mirror, writhe around n the floor, start talking with an english accent about investments, and then pretend you will touch them and infect them, too. or pretend 'white girl' or whatever they call you is really WYE TAGURL and means 'baddest mf in the 'hood" or something.
just have fun with it. (i bet with your wonderful background you are very beautiful. and smart. so people are bound to be jealous. cut yourself and them some slack!)
2006-07-23 06:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are ignorant, jealous and judgmental period. You should feel blessed you are a mix of culture duh isn't that why they called America the melting pot? You are African, Chinese, Japanese and Mexican what great cultures and how many of these cultures have you heard are bad people none. You come from a great stock be proud. You need to be you and fit in where ever you feel comfortable. You do not have to be a certain person white/black just be friends with who you like. When you get out of school and are grown you really rarely see people you went to school with or grew up with. Name calling can hurt people usually do this to upset you try answering to it like a joke and I guarantee it will lessen and then stop.
2006-07-23 13:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by M T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, who you are on the inside is what really counts. Stop worrying about what others think of you because they are just jealous. You keep your beautiful mixed self happy by surrounding yourself with people who appreciates you for who you are. Stay away from the haters, because to the world you are black and the people who try to make you feel bad because you live in the suburb, they would have something to say no matter what. It is not your fault that your parents is doing well financially. Ignore the haters and surround yourself with people who is just going to love and appreciate you. OK
2006-07-23 13:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetness! Labels are for OTHER people, they aren't for YOU. Labels help OTHER people feel comfortable because then they can say this is better than me or not better than me (so sad, but that's what it is). You already KNOW who you are, your cousins are trying to make you feel inferior because, frankly, my dear, they are ignorant. You are so lucky to have not only 1, as they have but 4 very proud cultures to draw strength, WISDOM, power and beauty from. So do it! I think your cousins are secretly jealous, do NOT let them use the evil weapon of bigotry against you my sweet! Arm yourself with knowledge of your CULTURES and be proud of all 4 of them.
2006-07-23 13:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Marlin Darlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually biracial means two - bi means two not multiple.
When someone calls you by race instead of your name, just ignore them or say my name is ________ , please use it. Only respond to your name from that point on. It may be hard at first but they will get the message if you stick to your resolve.
Don't let other people label and define you. Every time you respond, you are giving them permission to do it again.
Good luck.
2006-07-23 13:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love who u are and don't worry about everyone else!
I'm 1/2 cuban and 1/2 swedish so I never fit either way!!! But I am proud of who I am .... There is not anyone like me and I love It!!!
2006-07-23 13:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by JENNIFER Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be proud of who it is that you are!
America is just one big ole melting pot.
I have in me german, canidian french, english
I'm so damn white you need to wear shades from the glare.
But when i tan gradually, I tan beautifully, because I also have Cherokee in my blood.. is that weird or what?
I'm a white girl who grew up in the hood, I also went to prodominently black high school.
Its just part of life here in some parts of America.
I am in Baton Rouge, La.
Once again, just be proud of who you are, be proud of who they are.
"Can't we just all get along"
2006-07-23 13:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rock N Roll Saved My Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide who you are and let everyone know about it. Don't let anyone tell you who you are.
Personally I think that is nice that you come from such a mixed background.
Good luck
2006-07-23 13:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. You have absolutely no control over who your parents are or who their parents were. If people can't be your friends because of the color of your skin then it is their loss not yours. You don't need friends that are so shallow that all they care about is skin tone.
2006-07-23 13:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by pseansum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are multiracial, not bi. Bi means 2.A name is just a label. Tell them you are an American and be done with it!
2006-07-23 13:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by Wounded duckmate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋