The girl I babysitt, who is TWELVE, is pregnant. She doesn't even have a boyfriend! What am I suppoed to do? My mom and dad say that I can't babysitt her anymore, or her soon to be kid(they are keeping the kid)! But i know she looked up to me, I was like a big sister to her, and she needs a friend!
2006-07-23 05:41:48 · 16 answers · asked by alli 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She SAID she didn't have a boyfriend 3 months ago. She is 2 months pregnant. So she must have gotten one after the fact. She was NOT raped. She said she just didn't want to say the kid's name, she didn't want him to be involved
2006-07-23 05:51:52 · update #1
I have a question for you. Hve you talked to her? And why do your parents don't want you to talk or babysitt her? It seems to me if this has upset you so much and your parents know this they should be thankful that you are upset. I know she is only twelve, but maybe you could find out who did this and get her some sort of help. Have you thought about the fact G-d put you in this girls life? He puts people in our lives for a reason. If I were you I would talk to her and give her some support. The bad thing about this is she and the unborn baby are being punished. There is the possibilty she didn't know what was happening. Most kids get the wrong info when it comes to sex. That's why I explain it to all my children.
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2006-07-23 05:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by bugbabe45 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If mom and dad won't "let" you babysit this twelve year old anymore then you must be fairly close to her age and I can understand why your parents don't want you to associate with this girl anymore. If you are indeed an adult (18+), then really, your parents don't have that kind of control over you anymore, move out and if you choose to remain a role model to this child then your parents will just have to accept that. What I don't understand is why a parent would hire another "child" to babysit their out-of-control preteen. If when my children were 12, I felt the need to hire a babysitter for them (at 12 they're old enough to be left alone for a few hours), I would make sure that the babysitter was a mature adult who will see to it that the rules of my house were being obeyed by my child.
2006-07-23 13:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by gorfette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means remain her friend. She needs one now more than ever. As far as babysitting goes, I think she's crossed the line into adulthood. Whether you like it or not, she don't need to be babysat but, will soon need a babysitter. You must also realize that there comes a time when the problems of others must cease to become your own. Please try to understand that this is what your parents are trying to teach you here.
2006-07-23 12:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard place to be in, what should be done is, who ever got her pregnant, should be arrested and go to jail for having sex with a minor. Her child, should be put up for adoption, because that would be in both of theirs best interest.
The girl you babysit, needs a lot of help, I know 12 year old girls. I have a brother that is 12, and one thing I know for sure, is sex is one of the least things on either of their minds.
And I think your parents have every right to be concerned, yes it's very sad situation. But I believe their concern is that you will feel sorry for her and try to make things easier for her. And though it would be noble, it truly wouldn't help her. The best thing would to let her parents handle this situation.
2006-07-23 12:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is pretty unimaginable! But in a situation like this maybe you should listen to your parents they have their reasons I guess even though we can't understand what they're saying at the moment! Also, maybe you should ask your parents if every once in awhile you could hang out with the girl you babysit and just talk to her so that she doesn't have to feel so alone! Hopefully, she has a healthy baby and you are able to help her!
2006-07-23 12:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cali girl 06! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you wanting to be a supportive friend she is going to need one now more than ever. You don't have to babysit her to be her friend just call and drop by she will cherish this time especially since she will know you are doing it because you want to not because her parents are paying you to. Talk to your parents they may change their mind when the baby gets here. Good Luck
2006-07-23 12:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by G-Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have a boyfriend and is pregnant..Who is the father? Think about that. You needto call CPS and get them involved. Tell your mom and dad how you feel and that you are concerned for her. You know what she happened and they don't have to worry about the same ahppening to you..Tell them you think she needs your support..
2006-07-23 12:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you? Second, who got this young women in this state? She has no boyfriend? Third, It is good that you care about this young women, but this maybe over your head. Is their something going on in this family You may not know about? You may want to be carful here. Good idea: Call CPS.
2006-07-23 12:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by cbmw95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and tell them that it's really important to you and the twelve year old. Tell them that you were like her role model and for you not to be there, that'd be wrong. "I want to be there for her. She's scared, and she doesn't want the dad to be involved." That's basically all you can say. Not unless you disobey them and go ahead and babysit them...<3.
2006-07-23 13:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by country_comfort16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horribly sad. Who is the father? You have to listen to your parents about this. Someone should call the Child Protective Services for this girl.
2006-07-23 12:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋