Ok there is this girl who I met in the 8th grade and became friends and in the ninth grade we became even closer and I started to fall in love with her. My sophmore year in highschool I was definitely in love with this girl and she started acting differently to me than the year before. She used to flirt with me a lot and my sophmore year she kinda ignored me. I was crushed but still got her a birthday card on her birthday and a dozen red roses on valentine's day and still call her a lot. The other day I asked her to the movies as friends and she said she had to visit with her mom's family. It kinda sounded like a last minute excuse. It seems I can never get her off of my mind, and we are about to start school. What should I do?
2006-07-23 05:28:31 · 14 answers · asked by Lil Romeo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is also a preacher's daughter and I heard that preachers kids are the worst but she is really sweet.
2006-07-23 13:38:02 · update #1
Ur a sweetie.
But I guess what u have to do is keep her in ur heart( as just a friend) but u also have to move on to a girl, u don't have to work so hard at trying to get her to like u.
Ur still young and u will meet other girls. U said school will be starting soon, well that means that new girls will start ur school and u will meet them and will like them as they will like u 2.
When u do meet her the other girl or girls, and u become close friends with them the girl who passed u over will see that ur now into someone who likes u back and she may then try to get back with u( because now she's jealous) she may even try to start to make u like her again.
Tell her that u have always hoped that u and she would make it as a couple, but now ur with someone who u like and likes u and ur not gonna stop now because now she see that ur happy with someone else. And that u hope she meets a guy and u also hope she doesn't treat him the way she treated u. But for now I'm happy with my new girlfriend. Bid her a good luck and tell her " see ya when I see ya"
The reason she will try to come between u and ur new founded friend is because now she knows ur not into her anymore and she lost her power ( of u wanting to her to go out with u) don't fall for it just keep on with other girls who like u and who treat u a lot better.
Good Luck Sweetie,
U sound like a reallly nice guuy anygirl would be lucky to have u as her friend or boyfriend
2006-07-23 05:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that, at your age, everything changes very quickly. The band that was "soooo hot" last month is so "not hot" today. Fashions change like the wind. So, too, do relationships.
You were friends, and maybe still are. It appears she discovered she doesn't want the friendship to go beyond that. Respect that.
Move forward. Don't obsess about her. If you do, it will just take that much longer for you to find a girl who will reciprocate your feelings ... and you'll suffer lots of pain in the meantime.
You need to get back "on the market", my friend. You will have a good many relationships over the next few years before you find the right girl to share a long-term relationship with.
Enjoy the dating process ... and don't be in a big hurry. Good luck!
2006-07-23 05:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never say anywhere that she ever said she loved you. Just because she was willing to be a friend, doesn't mean she was ever willing to take it any further than that.
She should've talked to you and told you that...but even if she didn't, thenbe happy with her being a friend. If you want that to continue, stop trying to get her as a girlfriend. If she isn't interested in that, then you sending her flowers, and cards, and calling her all the time will just make her not even want to be around you at all.
Talk to her, tell her you had a little crush on her, and have just realized that she didn't feel the same. That you're sorry for trying to push things, and would really like for the two of you to be friends.
Give up on her as a girlfriend for now. Be happy with being friends. If more is in the cards for you two, it'll happen, if not, well, at least you can keep her in your life as a friend. Find yourself another girl to go date, show her that you can be just friends with her.
2006-07-23 05:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but as people grow up they change... sounds like maybe her interests have changed a little... it may be hard to do but maybe you should talk to her about it... and accept the answers you get. It could be that you have matured more rapidly than her or the other way around... I know it may be hard to accept but if its bad news you just gonna have to go on without her and find someone new.... first loves are the hardest so i feel for ya... good luck and God bless .... by the way, how you handle this will determine if you remain the good friends that you started out to be so remember that!!
2006-07-23 05:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by monie99701 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you had was a crush, and those are common at your age. These are the years when everyone is trying to figure out who they are, who and what they like, and what they're going to do in life. Therefore, interests can change on a daily basis. The best you can do is stop worrying about whether this girl likes you or not (it appears she is not interested), and focus on making yourself the best you can be. You might try ignoring her from now on; if she does like you she might come around. If not, at least you'll have your self-respect.
2006-07-23 05:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to "fall out of love".Confront this girl and ask her if she was making excuses.She will most likely brake down or say she didn't.Look straight into her eyes and you maybe able to see the truth.
2006-07-23 05:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Only777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me that she is not into you, so the best and most effective way to get over someone is to completely stop talking to them. I know it sounds harsh but if you remained friends subconsciously your always going to be wanting more. If you drop her, you have no choice but to move on.
2006-07-23 05:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by James C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you go meet other people and try to forget about her. Its going to take some time though because you can't jus fall out of love for someone outta nowhere. if u want it to happen it will happen.
2006-07-23 05:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you're more "in lust" than "in love." Love is a decision, not some warm fuzzy feeling we get when we're around someone. You need to guard your affections more closely.
2006-07-23 05:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on you'll be a better man if you do becuz some times you have to let the people you love go but if she comes back that means you weren't just wasting your time.
2006-07-23 05:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋