I met this guy about 3 years ago, we hit it off instantly...we would talk everyday at work...we stayed friends for a while, then he told me he was getting married, I tried to talk him out of it, even his friends tried...anyway he married and then I stopped talking to him an they moved, then one daya few months ago I ran into him at the hospital, after not seeing him for about 6 months or so..anyway, he told me they were divorcing..after seeing him after allt his time going by I still felt the chemistry as well as I think he did too, it has always been there for us...I just love being around him...since then I found his phone number and called him up, he was surprised to hear from me(i never talked to him out side of work)I made up an excuse of why I called(like it was an accident) needless to say he didnt believe me, so I finally confessed that I didnt want to stop communication with him. I have a feeling he wants more, how do I know if he does? how do find out without hurting friendsh
2006-07-23 04:55:14 · 5 answers · asked by katsniche30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's married, move on...otherwise you're getting set up for a Big Ugly....
2006-07-23 04:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've let him know you're interested ... now back off. Let him take it from here.
The last thing in the world you need is to have him jump into your arms on the "rebound" from his short-term, failed marriage. It would probably lead to a disastrous, short-term affair.
Give him some time to heal. No matter how short his marriage was ... it still leaves a scar in ending. The fact that you and others tried to talk him out of getting married may even have contributed to the marriage going south ... subconsciously.
It's always best to support and congratulate someone who is getting married ... no matter how you feel about him ... so he can't ever accuse you (or even think) of being any part of the cause.
Give him time and space. If he feels the same about you, he'll come to you. He might even see someone else in the short term. Let *her* take the hit from the "bounce".
Be patient.
2006-07-23 12:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Rob R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he has his divorce done and over with, then go and see him and ask him out to dinner or something. Flirt with him and it should go on its own from there. There is no way to do it without possibly hurting friendship, take a chance. Good luck.
2006-07-23 12:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him up and ask him to come over. so that you guys can talk about how you guys feel about one another.and if he feels the same way then you guys are meant to be together.after all these years and month's apart. good luck
2006-07-23 12:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ask him you guys are grown ups
2006-07-23 12:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by dog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋