At one moment she is fine and happy. and then the next moment shes yelling complaining about something. Then she is sad and feeling depressed saying that im going to leave her but I tell her everytime that I love her and that im never going to leave her.
2006-07-23 04:25:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Marry her. You made the commitment of having a baby which is alot more difficult but you cant commit to marriage?
2006-07-23 04:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like others have written - be there for her, and constantly reassure her. perhaps come home one day with flowers and a sweet card (or even write her a poem or something sweet from the heart) and give her a HUGE hug and passionate kiss... lay her back, tell her how beautiful and sexy she is and how you couldn't stop thinking about her all day and the family you guys are going to have.
make sure she realizes that you are happy about the baby's arrival and take part in the small baby stuff, like planning the baby's room, shopping, etc. i know guys don't like doing these things -- it's boring. but, being with her shows you support it all, and you are going to be a good father.
also realize -- this is only for 9 months. she may be depressed after the baby is born (post-partum depression). a small amount of depression may be normal -- a LOT of hormonal changes take place. if the post-partum depression gets worse or lasts a long time - GET HER HELP IMMEDIATELY! it can be very serious. it's mainly hormonal and CAN be helped with a doctor's care.
also realize, she is gaining a lot of weight and she may think you no longer find her attractive. it is your job (i hate to say it like that, but... it's work!) to make her always feel beautiful and sexy. if you let her know that you realize a woman's body changes during the pregnancy and that you know it is HEALTHY for her to gain the weight for the baby's sake, and that it WILL come off after the pregnancy and that it will take time and you are TOTALLY ok with it all... it may put her mind at ease.
best of luck. hang in there. it's tough being a woman sometimes. support her. it's an awesome thing to have - a man's love and support. and she will do the same for you when times are rough on you.
2006-07-23 04:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't even bothered to read even half of what you wrote, not because it isn't true, my guess is it is, but because the problems you have come down to two simple things: 1) pride; and 2) sin. If we take the first one, pride, there is so much of what you say that comes down to you telling her or letting her believe things about you or your plans that aren't true. You can't blame her if you said such and such and then she found out the hard way that what you said wasn't true. This is an issue that you need to deal with, and it isn't about you telling her, it is about you changing your heart. You have come to a religious forum, so I am guessing you are expecting to hear that Jesus does offer a solution, which he does: Love your neighbour as your self! The only way you can change your heart is by putting Jesus as first in your life. When you do that, then he will change your heart, and when he does so then pride will also be dealt with, because pride is one form of sin. Which brings us to the second factor: sin. The fact she gets jealous when a lady rings is because she doesn't trust you ... no, you don't blame her for that, you need to blame yourself. You created the distrust, so you need to create trust. Again, the issue of her wanting an abortion is because she doesn't trust you to support her and the child, so you need to show you can be trusted.
2016-03-27 03:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep your mouth shut and let her rant and rave all she wants. After all imagine what she is going to have to go through in a couple of months while you get to sit there and watch. Child birth is very painful. Plus she cannot help her mood swings! Her hormones are completely out of whack so just give her what she wants and remember it will all be over once that baby comes out. Good luck to you.
2006-07-23 04:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that you're asking this question. She is going through her own thing right now and is very worried most of the time. She probably doesn't realize half the time.
I'm pregnant myself and I feel bad for my family because it sounds very much like me. At times I don't even see it, I just know that something just made me mad and I have to express myself.
I do apologize to my family for not realizing it at times. But don't worry yourself too much, still will all be worth it in the end and she'll love you for it. Be there for her and your baby, don't forget........the less stress she has, the less stress on the baby.
You're doing good so far........=)
good luck and God bless
2006-07-26 21:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Darleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that everything is going to be ok. Hug her alot tell her how beautiful she is. Tell her you cant wait intil you get to meet the baby. i remember when i was pregnant i felt so fat and ugly compared to all the other girls walking around durning the summer time in their cute little outfits. Make her feel like a queen.
2006-07-24 13:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by amber h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to deal with it. I found it easy to just agree and try your best to stay out of their way as much as possible. Work another job or something but give them their space. If you are not around or not busy 24/7 they can't get on your nerve
2006-07-29 07:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by wileyj1133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand and forgive but you DON'T need to stand for disrespect. There will be women that will tell you that you HAVE to, but you don't. You're not a bad person if you put your foot down. However, first and foremost, before anything else, understand (empathize) and forgive.
2006-07-23 04:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by AC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a hormonal thing. My wife went throught the exact same thing when she was pregnant with my son. I feel for ya.
2006-07-23 04:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is to bear with her. Bear with all her moodswings. That is brought about by hormones so it's just normal for a pregnant woman.
2006-07-23 04:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by cerebellum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋