being a single Mom?

Question

Why do ppl (aspeshally University students that dont have any real life experience) slam on being a single mom? like its a poor quolity of life I am a strong jounge single mom and my kids have the world and a huge family WHY PUT ME DOWN FOR IT!!!! because there father wasnt a man why is that my fault (bethany!)

Yes i see your coments on my spelling i was very angry and typing in a hury and YES I CANT SPELL im over it can you to please

Answer 1

No one should put you down for doing your best in a difficult situation. Anyone who does is ignorant and cruel. It's wonderful that you have strong family support and are managing well; many children in single family homes don't enjoy those benefits.

It's altogether possible to raise fine, socially adept, morally intact children as a single mom-but it is honestly more difficult than raising children with a loving, caring father in the picture. Since their father is not, you are doing them a favor by sparing them a life of emotional turmoil. Remember that, continue putting their needs first, because all good mothers must, and your example will continue to shine. God bless you.

Don't feel you must defend yourself from every ignorant and cruel remark; your actions speak louder than any words could. Cream rises, and I applaud you.

best wishes,
cryllie

Answer 2

Nobody bothers to ask the offspring of single-parent families whether they would rather not have been born.

Criticism of single motherhood arises from many different considerations. Most grounds for objection go away when the mother has money. Others when there is adequate child care or an extended family. Most of the arguments contra are based on myths.

It's fair enough to criticize young girls who get pregnant on whim, or to get a free ride from the State. It is not fair to criticize a reasoned, mature action -- as where a woman's biological clock is running out and she makes a rational choice.

Beyond that, accidents happen. Men get mean. And so on.

Answer 3

I don't put single moms down, as long as the kids all have the same father. Otherwise I think the mother should learn what birth control is. Most single mothers are the working poor. And even those who have decent jobs, its still tought to raise a child, especially by yourself.

Answer 4

People don't understand other people's lifestyules and college students are conditioned from birth to NOT become a single parent becasue it will interfere with their abiltiy to get an education. So unfortunately they look down on it but what matters is you are happy, kids are happy and that is the best thng in the world. Single mom here too btw. I don't worry about what other people think. What is fun is to see my kids are so much happier than the ones from those families. :)

Answer 5

I totally support you. Single mums are often better parents than married ones, because they're alone with their children, so they protect them more than anything. I do not put you down for this. I express my admiration for your job, and I hope you're doing well. As you say, it's not your fault their father left. As a matter of fact, if he is like some other fleeing fathers I know of, I think his absence could be the best for your children. Two single mothers are very close to me, and I know what it is like. Both of them can be very proud of what they've done with their kids. I'm sure you can, too.

Answer 6

Ppl in college are pounded with the admonition at an early age to not get pregnant, so they may tend to look down on someone who does get pregnant. Just do your best to take care of your kids and ignore what others say...
If your kids are clean or mostly so, well fed and well cared for then there is not a whole lot that anyone can say. Do the best you can with the situation that you have and try to take good care of your kids...Good luck...

Answer 7

people tend to see single moms and judge them off the bat as whores because they must sleep around to be single with kids! They don't tend to think of the other half. Like men are excluded, only women are held to sum standard. I know I was look at differently after the birth of my son. I was even treated unfairly because of ignorant people. Little did they know I WANTED a kid and not a husband! Now though I laugh at these people who held theirs noses to me because I married his father and we have another child. I was not ready for marriage now I am. Simple as that. These people who look down on you need to be smacked who knows y u are single. The father could have died, or you just don't wear a wedding ring, or you could have been raped and didn't believe in abortion. There are so many reasons to be a single mother, other then the ones people tend to label her as.

Answer 8

I am sorry for people putting you down but I don't think those were mistake in spelling I think you need to start learning how to spell b4 your kids start teaching you how to spell.

N e ways I feel your pain i was left alone at the age of 15 to take care of my son, after his father got locked up for four years. He got out and was doing good for about 9 months and I am pregnant again and his locked up again, But i know I do a damn good job taking care of myself and my son.

Yeah them guys don't get put down like we do.

Answer 9

You might want to try using spell check.

No...it's not your fault if the man was an irresponsible jerk. Being on your own with kids can be HARD and not many people do it as their first choice.

Answer 10

single parents are the strongest people in the world. they have to be! don't let small minded people put you down. they have no idea of the personal sacrafices you make on a daily basis BECAUSE of your child/children. when i was a single mother my job as a parent seemed like twice the work BECAUSE IT WAS!