my dad is getting into an unwanted relationship......?

Question

my mom died aboutt four years ago and i am still having a lot of trouble with her death. but my dad is about ready to move on and there is this woman who wants my dad, but i am not ready to have another mother figure, and i REALLY dont like her! this is like a cinderella story or something! i am a 13 year old girl. help me!

Answer 1

Tell your Dad how you really feel.

Answer 2

Losing your mother can be the most difficult thing in the world to live with. You need to give your Dad the benefit of the doubt. If this woman is bad news, he will figure that out.
This woman doesn't have to step in and be your "mom", no one could ever replace your mom. Any one worth their weight would know and understand that. Maybe she could just be your friend. You are at a time in your life where you will soon need a woman to help you through your times and troubles. Dad's are wonderful, but there are some things they just don't understand. Maybe this woman could be the one that can understand.
I suggest you take the time to try to get to know this person, before you judge her too cruelly. If you don't, it could turn around on you, and blow up in your face. Be careful and keep an open mind. And always remember that your Mother loved you, and that love lives on in you.

Answer 3

I really understand how u feel..If ur dad feels he's ready to have a new relationship then the only thing u can do is talk to him and be honest with him.. Tell him how u feel about this woman and that u dont like her..However that doesnt mean ur dad will not be with her. She is not here to get ur mother's place.. Ur mum will always be ur mum.. She will just be ur wife's father..through time u may like her and see her as a friend.. but u may not.. Do talk to ur dad about it and explain why u dislike this woman..If he wants to be with her and is ready for a new relationship doesnt mean at all that he forgot ur mum or that he doesnt miss her.. But life goes on.. and we all deserve to be happy.. He will never forget ur mum by marrying another woman and of course u will never replace ur mum with someone else.. You just need some time .. Talk to ur dad.. it will help u..

Answer 4

Tell your dad how you feel. Maybe he's just trying to fill the void of losing your mom, or maybe he really is ready to move on. You should be the most important thing in his life, but realize that he's not going to stay away from women forever. You two need to sit down and talk things out. If that's too hard, write him a letter first, then talk to him. Hopefully there will be a woman who comes along someday who fits in perfectly with the BOTH of you.

Answer 5

First you have got to ask yourself a few questions here. Do you not like this woman because she is in your dad's life, or because of something she has done, two do you want your dad to be happy and three do you love your dad. I am sure the answer to two and three are yes so after you figure out one sit down with your dad and have a heart to heart talk. If you don't like her because she is in your dad's life just tell him that you know he will always love you but you feel like she is taking over your spot in his life and let him say what he needs to say as well. Sit down with her and tell her that you love your dad and it is hard for you to accept someone else in your life you feel like she is trying to replace your mother and let her be your friend. No woman wants to take the place of someone's mother honey they want to find their own place in your life and givin the chance she might become a good friend. If she has done something then it is different and your dad needs to know that. You have suffered a great lose loosing your mom and you have to give people a chance. Your dad loves you and will listen just give him a chance.

Answer 6

Well, sometimes you have to put the shoes on your DAD. Maybe he is lonely and really needs someone now. Four year is a long time. Getting married after spouse's death is okay. At least he is not cheating. He waited so long, I think you should understand his situation rather than focus on how you feel.

Maybe you should try to get along that New Mother. That may help you overcome the problem of accepting her as family member. Hopefully, she is not a bad step mother!

Good luck..

Answer 7

It's hard when you lose a parent. Your dad waited a healthy amount of time before trying to date someone. Just always keep in mind that he's not trying to replace your mom. And noone will ever be like her. Just because your dad is dating doesn't mean that this woman will be around forever. He'll probably date a few women before settling down with one. Because he waited four years tells me that he has respect for your mom's memory and for you. I bet he'll take your feelings into consideration before he marries someone else. Try to trust his judgement, and realize that you will grow up and move on with your life, you have your whole life ahead of you. You'll be happy in the future when you start a family of your own and don't have time for him, that he has someone with him who will spend time with him and take care of him. You might not always like the person your dad decides to be with. But if she makes him happy and treats him right then you should be happy for him.

And remember, just because she wants him, doesn't mean he'll keep her around. Don't put up too much of a fight, yet. The more time he spends with her, the more opportunities he'll have to see that she's not the right person. If she treats you badly, tell him. But don't bring up your mom when you tell him and don't get all dramatic or he won't take you seriously and he'll just think you're being jealous.

Answer 8

Sit down with your dad and let him know that you feel really uncomfortable about letting the memory of your mom go right now. But dear, remember that your dad is an adult, who has feelings too, sometimes he gets lonely without your mom and would like to be in the company of someone who could care for him, like your mom did. I know this is hard, but if you establish a good relationship with your dad and open your communication lines, it's more likely he'll ask you what your opinions are regarding his plans.

Answer 9

4 years is a long time to go without a loving partner.
I know how difficult it is for you but you need to tell him how you feel if you cant talk to him write to him or email him. that way you can say exactly what you feel with out it coming out all wrong. I suggest you sit on it for a few days and re read it before you send, just to make sure its what you want to say.
It may seem impossible to you now but in a few years time you will be at College or university or what ever ... all grown up with a life of your own... your dad needs a life too... but he will NEVER stop loving you and no-one will ever replace you or your mum in his heart. but there is room for another love. If he knows how you feel He will help you through this.
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Answer 10

You are 13 not 3. Your Mother has been dead for some years and there is no doubt that your Father must have suffered appalling loneliness. It is his turn to be happy. By all means express your concerns to your dad but it's time you knew that the world doesn't revolve around you.

Answer 11

Your Dad has the right to be happy. Don't deny him that. If you know this woman well enough, tell your Dad you don't like her. If you don't know her, give her a chance. She's probably not looking to take the place of your mother....she's just wanting to date your Dad..