2006-07-23 03:53:22 · 9 answers · asked by justlittleoleme520 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was an abused child, I won't go into details, but it wasn't nice. That was about 40 years ago. I haven't got over it either, but I've forgiven the offender, although I don't think he's forgiven himself. Learn to accept the fact that it happened. You can't change the past, but you can realise it wasn't YOUR fault. Talk to people about it. There are groups out there just for that. Talk to your friends. You'll find out you aren't the only one. Love yourself, and remember, you need to take care of yourself, don't allow the past abuse to hurt you anymore then it already has.
2006-07-23 04:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is the first step and lots of it. Then realizing that some damage done will always be with you and to get it to a manageable level is the goal so it doesnt' disrupt/destroy your relationships. The inner child is hurting and will hurt. Sometimes this can be stopped but even the professionals can't resolve all issues. I was physically, sexually and emotionally abused as a child for 16 years. Started counseling in my 20s and now in my 40's with the past there but not ruining or running my life. The pain is still there but in its place. It takes a lot of work and the most important thng is to break the legacy and not let your children be touched by it. Get counseling.
2006-07-23 04:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have anger as an adult, because as a child who was abused, you were powerless and forced to conceal your anger. Then as an adult, you have the ability to think about what happened and why it was wrong..this along with the anger and fear you retain from your childhood are probably significant things affecting you now. There are many therapists who help adults who were abused as children; both in group and individual therapy. The scars of childhood abuse are deep. As a survivor, seek help to heal. Best wishes to you.
2006-07-23 04:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the type of abuse you are talking about. If it's sexually, i guess you should let someone of an older age know about whats happening. However, if it's not sexual abuse, well i guess that you should be very careful of the kind of things you do and also the kinds of places you go to, and also the kind of things you permit and unpermit...
Probably that way you would be able to live your life as normal, unabused child..
2006-07-23 04:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Amama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should have you in counseling. It is probably something you will never forget but you should be able to learn to cope with it and move past it.
2006-07-23 03:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by ebonybutterfly4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a therapist who understands these issues. If you are in a committed relationship, your partner should also meet with the therapist.
It is not easy, but you can do it.
God bless you.
2006-07-23 03:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by fcas80 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you belong to a church or know anyone who does? A church pastor can be very comforting and know where you can get some help, possibly even for free. Don't be afraid to try....that's why God put them there to help those in need. Good luck to you, please tell me your name and I will pray for you. Deb
2006-07-23 04:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might need to see a therapist.i am sorry to hear that you've gone through all of that but if you need, you can e-mail me at
Mrklcoac2002@yahoo.com
Mark
2006-07-23 07:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get counseling.
2006-07-23 03:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋