i married a youngie -does age matter-and i believe in Jesus heart and soul 1st and formost-do u?

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ok this is how it is-she was 17 and we met-she was engaged to a guy in his 30's -we became friends in s cali-i started really liken her and went back to ny and wrote her. she wrote one day sayin that she had a b/f and that he stopped going to chuch what should she do-i said pray about it-she did and she dropped him and became in love with me.
the problem is her dad beat her up as a young child and the mom dropped the charges-so he verbally abused her telling her she was a loser-well she does have a strong will, but she loves Jesus was incredibly wonderfull to me when we finally married when she turned 18 it was all good romantic and all that but-after 6 months the anger started coming out. by 2 years she had hit me with the car and then committed adultry and came back cryin-i cried too and forgave her-she said but what is Jesus going to do? from then it wasnt the same-finally i said im leavin-she said dont i love u, i will do anything-i said take anger management-she said no

she said she couldnt take the course cause it hurt too much-emotionally-so we got divorced recently-now i cried for 3 months cause i loved her so much-but when i went back to s cali her mom said she got remarried-so now im ready to move on with my life-i believe in marriage and living like a prince. i got money and i do evangelism-and that bothered her too in the end cause she was afraid i would find another to be my g/f-but i would rather die even in the bad times than cheat on her -which would be cheating on Jesus and myself-so now i listen to bridge over troubled waters and lately feel i would like to become in love again. please help me i would like one true friend and see where it goes from there-a number of girls have asked me to marry them-since then but i seek a true heart to go with that pretty face-and i got amazing grace-so pray for me and if ur willing be my friend-come to my 360 and leave me a msg or whatever thanks alot david

Answer 1

ok..so how old are you? im kinda lost. but all in all..this was a touching story. of course God works in mysterious ways. i'd say that after a past like hers, she was bound to do somethings that are just..i'll call them inhumane. pray for her and tell her that you're there for her..i think she needs to know that she is loved. she needs attention. you need to show her that she's lost touch with her first love...JESUS..anywho..i gotts to go..byee..oh..and i hope it works out..God Blesss

Answer 2

Firstly yes I believe in Jesus, secondly I think that maybe you two should have dated more before you got married. I don't think age is a factor, just how mature is that person because I kno plenty of older people who are still not mature despite their age. I think the both of you want to work out your marriage, so maybe you could go to marriage counseling together, then coax her into anger management from there. I personally think some of the stuff she did is unforgivable but you seem to love her and want to make things work. Just keep praying and God will make a way!!!!

Answer 3

I have 2 question for you to think about:

1. Do you still love her? It's obvious you do or you wouldn't have said anything on here....and

2. Does she still love you? She prbably does, but because of guilt from what she's done to you she is ashamed of herself and is pushing you away so you can save yourself from her.

You both need counceling. Together as a couple and individually, especially for her considering her background. Jesus loves you both and even though she did what she did, He will forgive her if she askes Him to. I remember a song that says "I don't care where you've been sleeping, I don't care who'se made your bed, I already gave my life to set you free. There's no sin you could imagine that is stronger than my love and I'll take you in my arms if you'll come home again to me."

Love the Lord and love each other. and may God less you and your marriage.

Answer 4

Age does matter, but i dont think thats the biggest problem if she said she dont love you and committed adultry, I think that matters the most. In the Bible Jesus said you can leave a marriage if the person cheats on you.

Answer 5

Age does not matter in love. If you still love her then try and spent some time with her to work out on the anger part. If you both believe in Jesus then you know that forgiving is the strongest part of the Jesus. Work on it and Jesus will help you.

Answer 6

What about this, I`am christian and I have a 15 year old girlfriend not because I`am a pedo, its because I know were destined for each other and I do believe that even though god consider it a sin, I`am willing to take any punishment and risk involved just to be with her, Its called Belief.

Answer 7

Actually only you, yourself, is in the best position to understand and decide on this matter. To take your position, however, I would try focus in my personal faith with God. I will continue to pray for her and ask for gudance, hoping that eventually she would be able to see the light in you and things work out well.

As to her age... hmmm, well she sure is still young and, thus, you have to be more on the "understanding side" being senior and all.

good luck and take care,

Answer 8

You decide that you are going to marry a damaged child, put her in an adult relationship with an older man, who obviously has very little education, and then expect her to become some little God fearing stepford Wife??!! Grow up!

Answer 9

Firstly, let me get up off of the floor from Laughing...... Next, get your TOOTH removed and get a FULL SET of dentures. You are a dirty old man who stole someone elses prospective wife and who the Hell is this Jesus guy you are blaming all this on>>>>>>

Answer 10

LOL if she's got the hots for someone else, and it sounds like she does, your marriage might not amount to much...