leave or go?

Question

my boyfriend and i got into a fight yesturday he said he dont like my mood swings and i m not the same girl he fell in love with.
when we get into a fight he will throw **** at me and sometimes kick me.
hes in a wheelchair, i dont care about that i love him for him but hes constaly being mean to me. should i leave?

Answer 1

Leave him

Answer 2

Well how long have the 2 of you been together has it been a long time or not that long? I'm asking because if this is how he is in the beginning then you should probably leave now because he likely won't just quit unless this was the only time & there is something major going on with him that he is trying to keep from you. Which is bad too. If you have been together a long time though & it is out of character for him to behave that way. Then you need to evaluate your feelings for him. You say he is mean to you all the time, is that true, does he put you down &/or call you names? Or do you just think he is being mean when his opinion is differnt from you own? Is he worth the effort and pain/frustration of helping him & you work through his attitude & your "mood swings" ( R u really having mood swings even?)? Think abbout it on your own without him around & eventually the answer will come to you. Listen to your heart, but don't completely ignor your head while doing so. Good luck & best wishes. :)

Answer 3

I am confined to a wheelchair also and for a while I was very verbaly abusive I was never physically abusive to anyone but I found that deep down inside of me I was not really accepting the fact that I am stuck in a wheelchair I was only put in a wheelchair 3 years ago and I have found that with counselling and the help of a fantastic woman I am just starting to cope with it but if he is being physically abusive it may be time to get out before he really huirts you.

Answer 4

Life's too short. You should remove yourself from any abusive situation and look more closely at yourself to determine why you allowed yourself to stay in that abusive situation. Then whatever that reason (or reasons) is, be aware of it so you don't put yourself into another one. in fact, read Safe People, by Cloud & Townsend. I allowed my abuser to treat me poorly until I realized that i had a choice. confront them and set up boundaries within which you are willing to live or remove yourself.. I tried the first without success and then opted for the latter. Also, abuse usually escalates. It may start as just verbal and then get physical. Once physical it may go from a simple grabbing of the wrist to throwing things, to a fist fight. They usually turn ugly. Go your own way, gain more understanding about yourself, heal your abuse wounds and then maybe you'll be ready for a healthier relationship. I'll pray the spirit will lead you towards health and happiness.

Answer 5

u know what normally i say yeah leave and ur supposed to treat him like a normal person. i mean lets be honest no girls really want a guy in a wheelchair so if u do thats kool and he should be counting his blessing. still there only so much u can take right. so u need to give him a reality check. that he should be lucky he has u and that u love him. he needs to repsect u or else u have no other choice to move on. tell him u dont want that but if he dont change then u have no choice ok.so yeah give him one last chance ok good luck

Answer 6

To me, you've answered your own question. Leave and go mean the same thing. My advice? Try to figure out how it happens that you fall in love with such an un-nice guy. My guess is that there is a little girl deep down inside you who hurts and was told she's not worthwhile, valuable, good and doesn't deserve a good person who is kind and considerate and cares about her. Who was it that told you you are undeserving? Think about my answer. You will at first just say to yourself, "He doesn't know what he's talking about!!" I was once just like you and learned somethings that are very difficult to learn. IM me if you care to.

Answer 7

Personally I would not put up with any abuse from anyone. I would tell him that you are going to leave if he doesn't stop the kicking and throwing stuff at me. He may just be trying to push you away for other reasons. I would try to work it out in a calm manner and if that can't be achieved then, yes leave. Good luck.

Answer 8

Well you could stay if you like to be abused and talked down too..Or youcould leave and find a man that will Love you and treat you with the respect you deserve! This man will eventually make you feel like you arent worth anything they are good at that..They like to make you feel trapped..He will even use his Wheelchair as a tool for Sympothy..Dont listen..Haul A$$

Answer 9

Yes with a temper like that you deserve better. Just tell him that its over so he knows there is no chance of getting back to where you were. Oh i would say if i am not the same girl you fell in love with then fine go find her and leave me alone.

Answer 10

throwing items at you and kicking you is a sign that the abuse will get worse. Leave now before you regret it and find you someone who doesn't hit you when you are in an argument with them. staying in this relationship and maybe having kids puts them into a situation that is not good for any of you

Answer 11

if it's real love you both will sit down and talk this out.talk about how he's always mean to you and maybe he can talk about ur mood swings but if yuo think it's not worth it then go but if you love him like you said you do you'll stay and try to make things work but if continues girl get out of that relationship