How 2 make my mother happy?

Question

My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.

Answer 1

First of all, I am so sorry to hear about your sadnessas well as your mom's.

I would plan an evening or afternoon in which you have a luncheon or dinner with all of your mother's favorite things, flowers, etc. Then take her hands and tell her how much you love and appreciate all of the sacrifices she has made throughout her life for you and your brother. (it would be nice if your brother could be there also)

Explain that you wish her life, as well as your own, could have been simpler and easier, but sometimes we are not dealt the best of cards. Still, you feel lucky that life dealt the gift of her being your mother and for that you grateful. Hug her and tell her that things will be better for you both - and it will, because you have each other and the love and support of each other.

Know that life WILL get better. You may have to let your wife go and move forward with your life. I understand that this is not going to be easy, but you will survive. I teach meditative water yoga and I always say that life is the opening and closing of doors. Sometimes the doors we close hold good memories and we wish to revisit those, some not so nice memories and we wish to leave the door to those closed, but all the experiences of our life combine to make us the people we are today. This being said, if we learn from these experiences they cannot be considered failures. For instance, in spite of your mother's marriage not being happy it did produce two wonderful sons.

We have "will" and that is what allows us to move forward. Your mother is lucky to have you, who cares enough about her to want to make her happy. You are lucky because you have a mother who was willing to sacrifice to make sure you had what you needed in life. What else could anyone ask for but such deep unconditional love. The two of you are wealthy beyond belief. Namaste' (which means let the life in me honor the light in you)

Answer 2

Sweet, thats what you are. A lot of people have no love for their parents when they grow up and leave home.
Lets see, is there anything your mother enjoys to do? Even if its a nice dinner out and movie, taking trips, whatever...You know her, so what does she like?
I do the same thing with my mother, but my dad died in 89 and she hasnt remarried and has never had to work, i pay for everything. My mom loves shopping and going out to eat, im at her house right now so she can have some pampering day.
Important thing, let this be a day for you and her, do not bring up the old ugly stuff, enjoy each others company. I love the time i spend with my mother, she is my best friend...Have fun you two :)

Answer 3

As you said, your mom did not approve of your marriage because she would have read her well but did not say anything as she didn't want to make you unhappy!!! The only term for your reconciliation with your wife is a solemn guarantee that she will look after her mom-in-law. If that does not work, then you atleast shower her with all your care.Ask your doctor brother to approach the subject psychologically. Mothers do not expect gifts or material things from children but real love like the ones she showered on you when you were a baby!!!!

Answer 4

i feel your storie my mother to my dad took off and i grew up very defient, my mothers wish was only for me to go to school and be somthing you have done that an enganeer!!!!!! if i was your mom thats what wuld make my day that all my hard work when you were small helped you to do somthing great and never have to worie about money and shelter. But i also understand the marrage thing you cant make decitions for other ppl if your wife needed to go than thats what has to happen mabe in her anger she cant se coming back now just remind your mom its not the end ofthe world youve done well for your self and im happy for you!!!!!

Answer 5

It sounds like your mom did everything in her power to give you opportunity & happiness. I think she's feeling like perhaps she failed because your marriage failed and you're unhappy. She wants to make you happy again, & of course she can't, only you can do that.

Spend time with her, let her know you're ok, & certainly let her know how much you appreciate all she's done. As her for advice & then follow her suggestions when practical. I think once she can see that you're all right & she feels she can be of some help to you, she will no longer be upset.

Answer 6

I have tried my whole life to make my mother happy, and I have come to a decision that if I was to do everything in the world, that it would still not make her happy. She is going to be upset because her son had a falling out with his wife, but she will have to live with it.

Answer 7

By being happy yourself, and living the good life that she struggled so many years to provide you with! By listening when she has something to say, and realizing that yes mother does always know best, and keep your best interests in heart, so when she gives you advice LISTEN and contemplate and try it! She has a life full of experiences to back her after all.

Answer 8

It seems to me that your wife isn't being flexible at all. What was the fight about? Did she have a good reason to leave the house? Does your mother know the details?

Your mother wants to see you happy. Are you happy?

Answer 9

Make yourself happy and believe me your Mother will be happy. To know all of her hard work has not been in vain she already has to be happy. Despite things happening in her life I am sure she is quite proud of the men she has raised. Also, make every day memorable because we all know there is truth in the saying---life is short. Do what you need to do to keep yourself happy and your Mother will always be happy for you!!!!!!

Answer 10

Try to make she happy like bring him to visit any nice places, give your salary to she and make she happy .Otherway u have to divorce your wife and marry the girl of ur mother choice.I think only this can make your mother happy. Good Luck