Okay, I always feel as though if I date someone... that he'll find someone who's more attractive, same great personality as me or better, etc. I mean, with SO many choices out there, how can a girl be confident that she's adequate enough for her boyfriend? I know this sounds really teenage-like to say all this, but it's reallly true! Is one word of advice to not date someone who is classified more attractive than you? because you won't be on the same "level" or whatever?
PLEASE HELP!
2006-07-23 02:51:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who's doing the classifying? Follow your heart...
2006-07-23 02:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "level" bit will vary from person to person - whomever is looking at you...
If you feel the way you describe, there is a good chance you may come across as uncertain or shy. Some people like this, but many people like more confident personalities.
A girl can be as confident that she is adequate enough for her bf as she can be that her bf is adequate for her. After all, there are so many choices out there for you girls too!
I would disregard the word of advice about no dating someone you think is more attractive than you. You certainly won't be doing anyone any favours if you choose them for a date if you think they are ugly.
Find someone you like - especially someone you can be YOURSELF around. If you choose someone who is so attractive that you wind up posing and trying, you may find yourself being so artificial that they (or you) dislike it.
Be yourself
Be happy in your own skin
2006-07-23 10:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Adequate enough"? No, no, no, no, no! Don't worry if you are "adequate". You are unique and strong and beautiful and smart. Don't classify yourself. As you said, there are so many choices out there. But that goes for you too you know. You should be more selective. YOU pick and choose someone who will appreciate your intellect and humor and compassion and patience and obvious eloquence. Look for someone who is up to YOUR standards. There are guys out there who would give their left kidney for someone like you. Just be patient and enjoy yourself. Be you, that's more than enough!
2006-07-23 10:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a big dose of self esteem. There is always going to be someone smarter, pettier etc than you, or whatever..... But, being prettier doesn't mean that they are smarter, and being smarter doesn't mean that they are pretty either. Does that make sense??? Are there any coarses being offered in your area on self esteem??? Check this fall. If not see what else you can enroll in that might be close. Get out, don't dwell on meeting that special someone, if it is meant to be, it will be.
2006-07-23 09:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adequate? ur talking about a relationship..two people that care for eachother..beauty is in the eye of the beholder...alot of "beautiful" people have significant others that maybe arent quite as pleasing to the eye as they are, but it doesnt matter, its whats on the inside that is the most important thing after all looks fade and change...if he finds someone more attractive he is a very shallow and immature guy......someone you wouldnt want to waste ur time on....
2006-07-23 10:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all your man cares about is looks, than he isn't someone you want to be in a relationship with in the first place.
2006-07-23 09:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by the_world_is_yours44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't put yourself down and if he's with you,that obviously means he likes you so stop worrying about it.If he didn't like you for you,he wouldn't date you.
2006-07-23 09:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter how attractive you are, if your excellent in bed
guys want slu*s
2006-07-23 09:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by js1n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put on really dark red lipstick in your fare,or black lipstick if your dark!
2006-07-23 09:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋