I have been with my bf on and off for 6 years, I told him about 3 years ago that I was ready to get married and he said that I need to wait because he had just graduated Grad school and he wanted to work and get a house. So I respected his decision and understood, that as a man he wants to be settled, before having a family. Now 3 years later I brought it up again, and he says he isn't ready, he says he hasn't saved up enough money (Mind you he works for a computer effect company, cushy job from what I hear).
He tells me that he knows we will get married, but just not now, but he says maybe in a another few years...but that would mean we have been dating for 10 years and I don't think I want to wait that long.
Furthermore, my parents are pressuring me to get married,I am 25 years old and in my culture we have arranged marriages (AM) and I don't want to marry a stranger. In addition to that my parents and I have an agreement, that if I get into Med school,I can postpone the AM. help?
2006-07-23 02:24:53 · 9 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, today we were listening to the radio and something about someone dating for like 20 years before they decided to get married came on and he said ...see I don't see why you are in a rush, I mean they waited 20 years why can't we? So, I responded by saying, well if two people already know that they want to get married then what's the point of waiting? Not to mention we have been together for 6 years, you should know by now if I am the one for you or not...and he said I know what I want, I just like to see you wait.
2006-07-23 03:29:23 · update #1
NO! Get into med school and marry a doctor.
2006-07-23 02:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by duelpers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is to truly last then NO amount of time will matter .Futhermore if you go ahead & get married becuz of pressure you wont be truly happy & the marriage wont last .I can underdstand where your boyfriend is coming from he is just trying to provide a good stable life for you & him for when you do get married ....or maybe there is some underlying thing going on with him ...maybe he comes from a split family & he is afraid of divorce so he doesnt want to rush into marriage etc ....
Do NOT let your parents pressure you into marriage I understand your culture but be your own person & try to get your parents to understand it is your life & I am sure that also in your culture that divorce is not a option so they need to look at things this way also ..
So many things play into marriage now days not like when they were married ......it IS a new world & times change every year .!!!
Good luck & Peace to you in whatever choices you choose .Be true to yourself always !!
2006-07-23 09:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by straightjacket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel pity for your situation.You have to decide yourself that if he is trust worthy and do you really love him. If the answer are yes, go on waiting him. You can also make an agreement with him that you get married right away and start make your living together without waiting to have a lot of money and a house. A happy family is to be base on love not on money only. You can work together to create your fortune and and happiness.
2006-07-23 09:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by pyj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ha sent' married you by now trust me, hes not going to married you. If he really cared for you he would have married you long time ago. Lithen to your par rents, some times parrents do know best. I think in this situation I would go to Med school. You have waited long enough for this guy. That's allot of years of your life given away to some one. I know you love him because you have been with him all this time, but move on and go to Med school better your life, because if you don't sooner or later you will be disappointed if you stay with this guy. He's full of to many excuses. Take care.
2006-07-23 09:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is definitely not going ti marry you. The best course available to you is to join a medical school and go for an arranged marriage .you will have best both the worlds and if any thing goes wrong with one you can have the other.
2006-07-23 09:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by ponugotinr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is is worth waiting for him , if he really wanted to get married he would of done it by now .Make sure that you avoid the aranged marrage ,you should not have to marry a stranger .
Best wishes , I hope everything works out well :)
2006-07-23 09:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Justin Thomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him you're giving him until the end of 2006 to get you some sort of engagement ring and until the end of summer 2007 to get married.
2006-07-23 09:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to med school to avoid marrying a total stranger... well if you 're still willing to wait for your bf's then wait... if you can't wait, dump him.. that's my advise, the decision is up to you...
2006-07-23 09:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf doesn't seem to want to settle down. I don't see a healthy relationship. You should keep your options open to other guys. He is not worth it.
2006-07-23 09:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋