umm ok so my dad has always claimed that when i was born back in 1987 somewhere in iran, my *mother* just left me at the hospital cuz she didn't want me or something....i don't even remember what she looks like or anything, all i know is her maiden name..i live in the good ole USA now and i've tried to find some kind of people search database for iran but have not succeeded...i really would like to get a hold of her..to maybe ask her what she has been up to for the past 19 years..does anyone know how i might be able to find her? it would be greatly appreciated :)
2006-07-23 02:20:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so sorry, wish i could help, good luck
2006-07-23 02:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by TO FAST TO FURIOUS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, this is a long shot, but I used to be based in Germany, and there was a small Iranian community in Europe, at least around the Rheinland-Pfaltz state, in the southwest corner of Germany. If you can't contact the Iranian government about birth records (be careful if you aren't legaly a U.S. citizen,) then I would try Iranian groups outside of Iran.
Try the Iranian embasy (if there is one in the U.S.) If we still have an embasy in Iran, try them too.
2006-07-23 09:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you go about finding your mother but I know how important it is for adopted kids to learn as much as they can about their background.
Even if your mother didn't "want" you, I question your adoptive father's need to say so. Things are rarely that simple.
What I would do If I were you is to research the availability of abortion in Iran at the time you were an embryo. If you find that it was readily available either legally or illegally it may give some clue as to your mother's feelings for you. For her to not choose abortion, would suggest that she probably wanted you but could not care for you.
I assure you that there is nothing more difficult for a mother to do than hand her child over after carrying it for 9mos., feeling it grow and move inside of her. The sort of person who does this easily is the sort of person who would have chosen abortion.
Most people in the U.S. who want to adopt infants have to go to other countries to get them because it is rare for a woman, or even a girl, in this country to be able to part with her baby. I imagine it is done more frequently in other countries because of poor conditions which do not allow a mother to raise her child or give it the life she feels it deserves.
Your mother will always be your mother, particularly if her choice to leave you was with your welfare in mind but if your adoptive parents have done a good job then THEY are truly your parents. It is natural for them to feel threatened about your desire to contact your "real" mom. They should have prepared themslves for this predictable issue of adoption. Either way, they need to accept how important learning more is to your peace of mind. Keep communicating with them and perhaps provide articles and other information on this subject so they will learn not to personalize it.
Best of luck on your quest.
2006-07-23 10:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know anything about this all i can suggest is hire a private investigator i also want to give props tp your dad it takes a great man to raise a daughter on his own i wish you well on your hunt but don't get your hopes up to high she might not want to be found
2006-07-23 12:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but i feel you should carry on with your life instead.. it would be like digging graves and getting hurt.. i agree what happened was not good but now you know what you should never do.. if you dont agree with me jus ignore this msg..
2006-07-23 09:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by $~~BrOKeN~~$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe your dad is not being truthfull. I would have a heart to heart talk with him and impress upon him how inportant this is to you that you find your mother. Is he your real dad?
2006-07-23 09:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i don't exactly know what way are u gonnan search it
but hope i could help u
......google search for the word "family tree"
u'll find many sites ....i guesss u'll find some help there.
2006-07-23 09:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by gr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Cross do searches on family's try them
2006-07-23 09:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gudness.........your in big trouble...........I think you need to go to your birth place to get a better solution......
Good Luck!!!
2006-07-23 09:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by SATJ12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire an investigator ....... try.......zabasearch.com
2006-07-23 09:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by ibrushallday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋