I think I'm in a very abnormal situation...I'm turning 20 next week. I've never had a boyfriend... I feel like it's too late already..
Do you still think it's possible? How can I get a boyfriend?
2006-07-23 02:19:26 · 16 answers · asked by shardraco 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU ARE NORMAL
It is possible, and will remain possible for the rest of your life!
i dont think you want a bf... what you really want is love. Someone to love, and someone who loves you.
If you want love in your life, the first thing to do is stop worrying about it... and talking about it with your girlfriends
second thing is to start being what you want. be loving, be happy, be yourself
2006-07-23 02:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So I'll tell you... Based on your post I'm assuming your not a lesbian. I'd like to try and rule out any abnormal hormone stuff. Did you ever find a guy attractive, and would've liked he be your boyfriend? If so, good, you have normal healthy hormones.
Now a boyfriend doesn't have to be a sexual relationship. You could "go out" with a guy from work or anywhere else, and after a few dates call him your boyfriend. Are you seeking the closeness that comes with your idea of a boyfriend, or just someone to call your boyfriend because you feel left out among your peers?
I think it's definitely possible to get a boyfriend at any age. I know a first-hand story of an eighty+ year old woman who hooked up with her boyfriend at a retirement community a few months ago. As far as I know they're still together.
Twenty isn't that old, but the fact that you're conscious of wanting a relationship (I'm replacing relationship for your word "boyfriend") is a normal thing.
How to get a boyfriend... Well, it's easy to "get a boyfriend", the question is getting one worthy of you.
First I'd like to ask that you make a commitment now to not have sex under any circumstances before you get married to your husband. It makes relationships much easier and your marriage a million times more satisfying. Since you haven't had a boyfriend yet, I'm assuming you're still a virgin.
I can't easily answer how you can get a boyfriend because different ways work for different people. You could find the first guy you find attractive, chat him up, and ask him out. You could ask a friend to set you up on a blind date. It depends on your comfort level.
I hope this helps. Send me a message directly if you have any further questions (or to flag me on another Yahoo! Answers question you posted) because I answer many questions and might not get a chance to check on your specific question before it closes.
Good luck, and remember, keep smiling!!!!!
2006-07-23 09:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by VoiceOfReason 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very normal not to have a boyfriend yet. (you might hate this part) You are still young yet. You are probably being pressured from friends and stuff. When the time is right you will know it.
I am sure you were busy with school work and now college. If you have decided to work instead of school then you will find somebody there. Don't push to look because then you might never find it. It will just happen and you will know the feeling when it does.
2006-07-23 09:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by shadow_watt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it's normal.. I am 20 and I just had a boyfriend.. my first boyfriend.. there's nothing wrong with you.. You're just waiting for the the right guy.. It's better to wait than pick a guy on the streets you barely even know.. Come on, think about it.. Don't stress yourself about it. Have fun and enjoy being single your time will come in an unexpected way.. :)
Enjoy!
2006-07-23 09:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by *rocker chic* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Despite what movies and television would have us believe, many people do not get seriously involved with dating until their 20's. You are one of the most normal people in the world.
What most 'experts' say to do as far as finding someone is do what you normally do. If you prefer the library over the club scene, then you'll be wasting your time at the club. Sure, it never hurts to try new things, but most people will meet someone by just doing what they usually do.
2006-07-23 09:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Perfectly Said 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just turned 18. ive never had a girlfriend. sometimes i think im weird, but its not that. its just that the right guy hasnt come along. then again you could be looking in all the wrong places. youre completely normal. oh one more thing its never too late to find love or a companion.
2006-07-23 09:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by dirkn06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late? LOL people get married at 70, you know...enjoy being single for a while, others have already gotten married etc, have kids, you still have your whole life ahead of you, go out and enjoy some of it before you tie the knot!
2006-07-23 10:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by gokart121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a situation like yours to but I haven't had a girlfriend at all yet. I am turning 21 in September. So maybe you and me can join up. You can email me at shanebullard20032003@yahoo.com
2006-07-23 09:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by shanebullard20032003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have never had a boyfriend either and im 18 your not alone honey there are plenty of us so chill dont worry it''ll happen when it has to....................
2006-07-23 09:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by sanya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is the right time for you....!! Lets be friends... mail me on sharans15@yahoo.com
2006-07-23 09:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sharan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋