Without smaking and yelling.
2006-07-23 02:16:07 · 11 answers · asked by ஐAngelSpiritஐ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have an 18 year old and 17year old, and have never smacked them, I always found it easier to put the kids into each others room for fighting. They very quickly apologise because they are so worried about what the other one is doing in their room.
If yelling and screaming, I stand in front of them mothing words not talking they soon shut up because they cant hear what you are saying. Shopping they are both given a list of things that they have to get for me as we go up and down the aisle the prize at the end is cut meat from the deli which I leave till last. As they got older and even now if the fight is real bad I make them stand facing each other, look into each others eyes and say that I really love you, I think you are a beautiful person, and I cant live without you. If your kids can say to each other and still be angry then you have a problem.
2006-07-23 12:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Duct Tape!
OK, OK just kidding! The one thing that has helped me is to make rules that are sensible and when they break the rules there are defined consequences the children know before hand.
For example - if toys are left on the floor overnight they will be donated to a child that really wants them. The first time you have your children donate their favorite toy it makes a huge impact and they will not leave the toys out again. If they do, make another donation.
The one thing that kids want to know is "why?". Try to have good reasons for the "why" questions. Make sure you patiently answer as many questions as you can and then when you can't stand another question calmly tell your child that you need to get dinner or whatever and will answer more questions later.
Finally, be consistent. If you have a rule for the kids, you must follow it too. Kids notice hypocrisy right away. (of course all rules must be age appropriate)
2006-07-23 09:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by DMR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if you do smaking and yelling your children may suffer from mental and emotional problems and do the same thing on their children or even worse hate you all their life.
who wants to be spanked or yell at? do you when you were a chil like it to be yell at...to be hurt and it is not moral to teach them to do that. the children are the mirror of their parents. you have to know the answer always can be found
2006-07-23 10:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have children myself so I can't give you advice based on experience. But I can give you a T.V. program that is soley based on discipline in a non smaking, non yelling way.
The show is called Super-Nanny and it's on ABC
For a list of when its on in your area just go to Yahoo! TV and type supernanny
good luck
2006-07-23 09:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by aliandsean@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is a hyper-active 3 year-old and is always into something he shouldn't be, so I've learned that distraction works best for him. When he is doing something that he shouldn't be doing I find something similar for him to do that is okay to do. That of course doesn't always work, so I have found that the "naughty chair" is the next best thing. I myself don't believe in spankings unless he's putting himself in direct danger. I bought a special chair that is away from everything in my house and when he's being naughty he is to sit in the naughty chair for 3 minutes to think about what he is doing wrong (1 minute for every year old they are) When time is up I get down to eye level and use very short and specific words as to why he was sitting in the naughty chair. I didn't think this method would work, but it has worked wonders for him!
2006-07-23 10:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Chel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them the way to act by being wonderful role models. When they misbehave, let them know what they CAN do, in addition to what they can't. For example, if they are throwing a ball in the living room, tell them they can throw a ball outside, but not inside. If they are hitting each other, tell them they can punch a punching bag, but not each other.
Take care of yourself so that you will have the energy to deal with normal child behaviors. Get breaks from friends who are willing to "switch" kids with you once in a while.
Best wishes!
2006-07-23 15:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to smak or yell at them when you have repeatedly told them not to do something but they still are doing it. there is no better way other than that. other times you will need to sit down with them(especially when they've made a mistake) and show them the right thing to do. Remember spare the rod spoil the child.
2006-07-23 10:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that spanking sometimes gets a bad reputation, but I was spanked as a child and it worked for me - I still have a great relationship with my parents. If you do spank, never do so in anger, and only use one light swat.
If you prefer not to do that, then taking privileges away can be very effective, as long as you stick to your word.
2006-07-23 09:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always suggest or discuss with your children like a friend with utmost care,loving way.Be their best friend and have a very caring loving relationship with them.Thats the best way I believe
2006-07-23 10:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out in a corner or a chair in the same place all the time. You have to be consistent.
2006-07-23 09:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋