i feel healthier & better w/o a guy in my life. no im not lesbian. does anyone feel the same way?

Question

seems like dating a guy makes me feel more insecure and unwanted. im at best when im alone and date different guys.
does anyone feel the same way?
and dont say its cause i havent met the right guy.

Answer 1

I think because you maintain friendships and date you are never going to be alone. Some people were not 'wired' to be in a commited relationship or even monogamous.

Cheers to you for discovering it despite a society that would have us believe that if you aren't coupled up you must be defective in some way.

Quite the opposite. If you must be in a relationship to be happy, something is definitely wrong with the way you feel about yourself!

In the end only YOU decide what's right for you.

Answer 2

Yea, i felt the same way like you too. When i am dating guy, it make me feel insecure and lost my mind somehow. It was just not so rational of me, and feel depressed. I am may happy to have a date but feel sad at the same time. Weird but true..

I think it's best you 'shop' around and enjoy your single life while you still can. You never know you might get swept off by some guy that you are willing to give up your single status. good luck!

Answer 3

If you're happiest that way, so be it. Of course it does not mean that you are a Lesbian! Sounds like independence, to me!

I feel that way, too, unless I am with the right man. I know you don't want to hear that, but that is the way that I feel about my own life.

The right man makes me feel secure, and wanted.

I'd rather be alone, or date casually than be with the wrong man, or in a bad relationship.

But I prefer to be with the right man, in a good relationship. :-))

Answer 4

I like the way I feel now without a commited relationship. I do what i want and not having to report to anyone. I want total control of my life now. And will settle down when im ready. I think you are perfectly all right.

Answer 5

I'm the same way and I'm doing the same thing. got lots of dates right now. Haven't had a steady man for 6 months or so and it's nice to be open and free

Answer 6

It means that you are a very strong person, because you don't "need" a guy in your life to feel complete. You feel better for it because you have less stress.
You do not need to search for the right guy. When he does enter your life, you will not be insecure.
If you find that you don't ever need a steady man in your life, that's okay, too.
I think I'm becoming envious....

Answer 7

I went through a few years like that. But now i found the right one and it is a lot more fun :-) Funnily enough, i wasn't even looking when i found this one, as a matter of fact i had had enough of men at the time. But i think it is all about being accepted for who you are. Unconditionally ;-)

Answer 8

i understand what u mean b/c before i met this one guy i was so happy then i started liking him and i was totally insecure i was like does he like me does he not like me. but after we got to know each other i felt better about myself.
liking someone shouldnt make u feel unwanted maybe u move too fast be friends with the guys first

Answer 9

You are not being defined by another individual and you are developing a sense of self which is good because once you get into that meanful relationship the other person won't define who you are.

Answer 10

u havent met the right guy-lol just kiddin
relax if ur happy why fix it
but when u do meet Jesus like i did u will be fly and satisfied heart and soul
ur probably goin through withdrawal-then u will like to socialize but remember ur the prize-dont give in to eyes-like my baby blues inside of deep ocean blue rings ok thanks david