can anyone say something about it so i wouldn't feel so bad....i'm sitting for a very major exam soon...and i want to get it over with...i'm alone now...my sisters are all working, have a family of her own and another one is studying...i'm sad for my mom...she really hoped that my father showed her that he loves her...but at last...they ended up divorced...they got divorced a few years ago..but they got married again...that time i was so young...i didn't understand anything yet...now...i know it's what's best for them...maybe i'm sad 'cause it's the first time my mom talked to in such a motherly way...it's the first time she hugged me and said that she loves me...
2006-07-23 02:00:49 · 14 answers · asked by Big Bike Biker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know that it is hard, my mom told me that who I believed was my dad wasn't. So in a way I think I know how you feel. I felt like somehow it was my fault that they didn't stay together, but now I know that what happened happened and it wasn't your fault and that your dad would want you to do the best you can and to not get upset about this, and to just remember all of the time you guys had together and to figure out some way to see him. Don't get worked up about it. Relax and get ready for your exams.
2006-07-23 02:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think or worry about the past....what's done is done, and as you said yourself, it's for the best. Take this new attitude your mother has towards you, and embrace it with open arms! Tell HER you love her too, and make the effort to spend time with her when you have it.
Don't be sad...be happy, because for once, it seems she's not worrying about her life's problems, but thinking about you and that's as it should be. Make sure you keep in touch, don't forget about her on holidays or birthdays....and visit as often as possible! Right now, she's as alone as you are....it would be wonderful for both of you if you bonded together once again!
I've been a single mom for 10 years....and I've got a very close bond with my two youngest, whom I've raised on my own. They're 17 and 21 now...but not a day goes by that we don't tell each other we love them. It's an awesome feeling to hear them call out "love you Mama!" And I am SO happy you love her, and finally got to hear her say those words!
Good luck....
2006-07-23 02:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by CoastalCutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard time for you and your mum but for the rest of the family as well.. Just think that if they were together they wouldnt be happy.. It's better that they are apart for all of you .. If ur mum stayed with ur dad but one of them didnt love the other then both of them wouldnt be happy.. What you need to do now is spend much time with mum and chear her up..she's already sad from the divorce..remember that when a door closes a window opens.. see the positive sides of their break up and dont feel so down..this will make ur mum even worse if she sees you sad all the time.. wear your smile and do something for her.. watch a movie or go somewhere together.. she wont forget but she will feel better and when ur mum feels better you will better as well..
Be positive and good luck with your exam! You'll do great just put the bad thoughts aside =D
2006-07-23 03:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm vry sorry to hear that!!! Brace yourself..........don't get dragged by the matter.......you are young and there is a bright future ahead of you........your parents mistakes should not effect you cause you are not the reason for this seperation........May be its the right thing for them to do......GOD knows!!!
Anyway,take this as a lesson on how a child would feel if their parents are breaking off..........try not to repeat such incident in your life by making the right choice of your life in the future.......even though its quite common these days,but its not the right thing to do.............Nw what you should do is, confront your mom.......show her that you are always with her.........do mother and daughter things together such as shopping,baking,outings....etc....in order to release the pain which both of you are going through.........concerntrate on your studies as well....i knw its quite hard to accept the fact,but this is the reality...............Don't ever ignore your mom,this is the time where she needs you the most!!! I hope you understand.........
I'm very2 sorry if anything that i said had hurt your feelings......
Good Luck!!!
Take Care!!!
2006-07-23 02:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by SATJ12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. Your mother should have waited till your exam are over to disclose this bad news. Does not matter. For her it is not something new, since earlier also they were divorced and again they were reunited. You may just hope that it may again happen the same way. Do not take it too seriously to affect your personal life. Your thinking will not help either of your egocentric parents to change their mind. Have faith in God and go ahead as if nothing has happened. But take lesson from their conduct that how much damage they cause to the emotional feelings of their children by their irresponsible selfish conduct. Pray for them. I pray for you, God bless you.
2006-07-23 02:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about to learn a little alchemy. How to turn a scar into a star. I believe you love them both, so keep loving them and talking to both of them, as the loving human being you are.
Their decision it was, so it must be their responsibility for the consequences. Their divorce has nothing to do with you. It is a married couple business, not their children. Embrace the closeness with your mom, be there for her. Try to do the same for your dad, he will be hurting too. He now faces leaving the home, and being away from you and your sisters. Let him know you love him too. You are not to take sides in this. You are not to try to reconcile them, you are to love and support and respect whatever the decision is.
Take care, God bless.
2006-07-23 02:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a major emotional time in a family.
Just know that the divorce will be setting both of your parents free from being angry with each other, fighting & causing havoic at family gatherings.
Just remember you parentd love you just the same as they always have, that will never change.
2006-07-23 02:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe...I'm sorry. Well at least you know it is for the best. Now your mom can move on with her life. Just be there for her if she needs to talk, like you are. Time will heal her sadness.
2006-07-23 02:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my parents divorced it was the worst time of my life - only time makes it better - it took me 10 years - GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-23 02:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by jonnygaijin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault your mother will find some to love her again good luck on the exam
2006-07-23 02:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋