My friend and her fiance have been living together for about 5 years and both have good jobs. I am paying for college myself and really struggling financially. Plus, I'm in the wedding and have to pay for dress, shoes, hair, etc. I shouldn't be worried about it, but I am.
2006-07-23 01:43:24 · 9 answers · asked by sandy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are in the wedding, a bridesmaid, etc. You have 3 options
1- You can go in with the other bridesmaids and split the cost of a really nice present.. This is REALLY common nowadays
2- You can talk with your friend and be honest tell her that you are struggling and you just simply do not have the cash.
3 - It is ok to wait a bit longer after the wedding to give a gift. You can either tell her the truth - that you can't afford it right now and it is coming later - or that you ordered it and it's still on it's way
2006-07-23 17:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
two choices really
either talk to your friend (she should know your situation and not expect anything anyway) and tell her how you feel
or find something that will mean a lot but wont break the bank something personal from you
my friend got 2 cheap wine glasses and decorated them herself with words (bride and groom date )ribbons and glass paint etc out of all the presents i recieved this is still my favorite it is something to keep forever can be used to toast anniversaries etc well after the towels have frayed and the toasters gon bang
you could write the couple a personal poem or find one appropriate i know there is one about a box of friendship you could adapt it to marriage give them the gift of your continued friendship to both parties stating that you will always strive for their relationship not just the more prominent friendship (this is what i made the guest say at my weddingYou are not only here as witnesses to this marriage but also because you have been the most important of people in carl or marinas lives. You have helped mould them with your guidance into the two individual people that stand here today. I now challenge each of you to a life long commitment to them as a couple. You must now all work together. If a time comes when they are unable to resolve their differences and one or both confide in you they must find solace and comfort in each of you. It is your responsibility to think of the marriage first and not take one side over the other but find a middle ground that will bring them together I therefore ask you these questions to which I hope you will answer we are and then we do) fun gift vouchers (....this allows you to ring me a 4 in the morning when hes/shes doing your head in .... or more appropriatly my shoulder is yours for 2hours in time of need)
do you embroider ?? a nice wall plaque with date etc like you get when babies arrive have you been friend for long ??? if you have photoes of them over time you could make a photo album/scrapebook of befor they were married then they will have the wedding photos and then they can continue as there life continues
make a cushion when my friend was leaving work i got a photo of the kids in her class put it on material and hey presto she loved it you could use a nice picture from the wedding especially if it is one you take not from the original album and the fact it comes after te wedding will be nice as it will be a nice reminder once all the wedding stuff has started to fade
hope this helps
2006-07-23 09:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by marina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the wedding, it's normal practice for the bride to organise the outfit and pay for them? I would think perhaps on a gift voucher even if its only £10.00 at least its something. I would have a heart to heart with the bride- just tell her how you feel, I'm sure she wont mind and honesty is always the best policy.
That way she wont be expecting anything.
2006-07-23 08:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must always give a wedding gift. Can't your parents help you out? College is a poor excuse. Everybody uses that one. If you were getting married, you would expect gifts from everyone, regardless of their situation. Stop being selfish.
2006-07-23 11:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much ..If your friend is a true bf then she will appreciate u just sharing her special day.. If it really bother u then find a special inexpensive gift that comes from your heart for the both of them..
I did this for my friend I bought a nice material & had someone sew into a curtain for them....the material was 3m for $10xx
2006-07-23 08:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by angelluvswolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to spend oodles of money to tell your friends how happy you are for their upcoming nuptials. Buy a nice card, and make a coupon on the computer offering "FREE" house cleaning for a week, perhaps "FREE" hand carwashes. Another great idea is a basket filled with their favorite goodies.
2006-07-23 08:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dee Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I'm getting married in October and I'm not expecting anything from my bride maids, but then again I don't know what to expect. I know that a regular guest should cover their plate and their guests plate and a gift, be it money or something from the registry.
2006-07-23 08:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be tacky. Buy them a gift, or make them one. The cost really doesn't matter at all.
2006-07-24 08:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the thoughts that counts you can still find a nice affordable gift.
2006-07-23 12:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋