Women only: Try this dating question.?

Question

Guy number one: Brings you flowers on the first date. Goes to see a chck flick that you want to see. Goes to the restaurant that you prefer. Has what you are having at the restaurant. Lets you do most of the talking. Takes you home and kisses you on the cheek.

Guy number two: Arrives with no flowers. Debates with you for ten minutes on which film you will see, but gives his reasons. Another ten minute debate on the restaurant. Orders his own meal and tells a story about the first time he had it. Keeps up his own side of the conversation and more. Takes you to your home and kisses you unexpectedly passionately, but does not try to go inside.

Which one of these guys is more likely to get a second date?

Answer 1

Guy number two! I like a man who has his OWN mind, and doesn't want me to make it up for him!

Been there, done that, with second husband....might be why I'm single to this day, 10 years later! :)

Answer 2

Why does it have to be either the one side or the other? Can't you have someone in between. Guy number one seems nice, but also dump. Even if you really like someone, you should always consider what YOU want to do. Plus, I LOVE debating and obviously I would never have anything to debate with guy number one.
Guy number two may have something to say, but he is not romantic and sweet, which are very important.
I suggest a guy number 3:
He brings me flowers, he suggests which film he wants to see and together we agree on something we both like. We go to a restaurant we both like and order what we want. I ask him question and he asks me and we talk equally, getting to know each other. Then he takes me home and kisses me unexpectedly one the cheek.
Now that guy would definitely deserve a second date!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Neither.

I don't want to be dating a mamby-pamby guy who can't even assert himself long enough to order his own dinner! Someone who is this much of a follower has nothing to teach me, oh except maybe how to shut my mouth and be submissive. No thanks!

Although I am glad that guy number two did not bring flowers to someone he hardly knows (It will really mean something once he knows me, something like: I appreciate you.) It is ungracious of him not to agree to at least one of my choices without a debate. It's a first date, some attempt should be made to make me comfortable and have things go smoothly. As far as the passionate kiss goes: I've yet to meet a guy who has gotten one in without my spoken or unspoken consent and few have tried. Once I know and trust a man, I can tolerate ,and may even enjoy, a certain amount of dominance around physical intimacy but it's boarish and threatening from someone one doesn't know. If I thought some of these behaviors were a result of nervous over-zealousness, I would be a lot more forgiving. I would focus on getting Number Two to simply state that he is nervous, which will provide some relief and give me the opportunity to put him at his ease. Honesty is a turn-on.

Basically, though, the two examples show one guy who is over-empowering to his date and another who is under-empowering. One of life's greatest challenges is finding the "golden mean."


Thanks for the thought-provoking question and happy hunting!

S.

Answer 4

Guy number three - The guy who will definitely get a second date is a guy who is unique, playful, exciting and imaginative and will plan something completely different than the usual dinner/movie date . Not to be rude, but we've all been there, done that! Use your imagination and plan something new, exciting and fun! Yeah, flowers are sweet and will show your romantic side but is not necessary. If guys WOULD only watch more chick flicks, then you would really understand what makes us tick. You wouldn't feel threatened with getting in touch with your "feminine side" and you'd go to sleep with a smile on your face much more often . I don't want to have a debate with you about where to eat and what movie to see on the first date! That is childish and all about control and no woman neither wants or needs a controlling man in her life. If a man needs something to control in his life, then I suggest he get himself a dog. A guy who really wants to impress will plan a first date to remember unlike any other and will look forward to telling their grandchildren about it.

Answer 5

The first guy sounds alot like my boyfriend. If he don't talk much, he wont't be a social guy. He will be a a home person, and if he moves in the flowers will stop. He gave me flowers every time he came to my house, untill he move in. In the last 5 years I got 2 roses. The second one sounds like its all about him. If I were you ,and this is what your looking for,in a guy, then go with one of these,but if not, just keep on looking, and be fussy. You soon will find what makes you happy : )

Answer 6

The first one

Answer 7

Guy number 1

Answer 8

VelvetBlonde: I love you so much. And I speak for all us nice guys when I say that. Nice guys do get crapped on, and I am glad someone other than us sees that. Have a nice day!!!

All choosers of #2: Are you stupid? You would prefer a guy who is a jerk, rather than a guy who cares about how you feel?

By the way, I am not femminist, or gay, just for the record.

~JW

Answer 9

I think non of them. u know having a person who has not or cause any challenge is so boring and i think smart girls are not falling for these kind of guys but the problem is also smart girls are falling for second one who seems he does not care about your feelings and your soul and wanna abuse u!!! but there should be a second one who is discussing about choices but not finding, mabye he is not that romantic to bringing u a red rose he is giving u a nice smile and about debate..these persons are absolutely untrustable.

Answer 10

It should be Guy #1, but likely she will pick Guy #2. Have you noticed for some reason the good guys gets crapped on? I am sorry about this, but as for me, I am now old-er and would highly appreciate guy #1. So tell guy #1, if he wants to be appreciated for his manly manners, try an older woman.!!