i know this isnt strictly a true statement but 9 x,s out of ten they do! same with the money! even if they have no kids that she would have looked after to justify it! why is it the guy who always loses everything!
2006-07-23 00:40:37 · 22 answers · asked by esjay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good question and absoluteley not . Just because you are the mother does not automatically mean you are going to be the best single parent. I got divorced and fought custody after SHE left the family home for someone else.
The courts gave her custody saying "children should be with the mother !.
Various men later and bad role models she ended up alone and the girls now have real relationship issues, whilst i had and have one firm relationship.
I am 110% sure they would have been better off with me.
After the break up she broke in to the "family home and took many items before the settlement had been arranged ! i of course lost my temper and said things in the heat of the moment as you would but was not physically violent in any way ....... the outcome....... i received a warning from the police ! JUSTICE i dont think so.
2006-07-23 00:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Unfortunately, in many divorces, both people want to do anything they can to hurt one another, that they don't honestly look at what is best for the kids, and so in the end, not only do they fail the kids, but the court system ends up doing so as well.
I know several men who would do anything to have their kids full time, and deserve to as well, because they are the better parent, the better provider and the most capable of the two, but b/c the mother can get her crap together for long enough to be awarded custody, the children go with her.
I do also know several women who are great mothers and their ex-husbands don't want to be in their children's lives, don't pay child support and that is not fair either.
It is unfortunate that the powers that be that make the decisions in these matters, can only base their decision on who has the better lawyer.
If there are no kids, and takes more than what is fair (IE: what she entered the marriage with and 1/2 of what was accumulated during the marriage) then I would guess that would be greed.
2006-07-23 01:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by wanderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, My partner left the family home 3 years ago without our 6 year old son, I kept him although she does see him I am the primary carer.
He is a well balanced happy intelligent child who has all his needs met both physically and emotionally. It has been damned hard work, there has been little time to consider my needs as an adult in this time but worth every second. Men should fight and not just put up with being allowed to see their children when it suits the mother. We are just as capable of bringing up our children on our own. Maybe if there was more chance of a woman losing her children in a break up it would possibly encourage them to think about what they are doing and work on the problems instead of just walking away from them
2006-07-23 03:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by mikesonetoone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women get the children because they are usually the primary care taker of the children; some father thinks it's okay to not take their child to the park, drop them at school, take them to birthday party, doesn't know their best friend name, what size of shoes or clothes they wear, what's their favourite food or toys, who wake 's up at night when they having nightmares and when the child is sick who "even she is the bread winner" take the day off from work to stay home with a sick child. Most household are made of two working parents, but the women is usually the one who works outside and inside of the home.About money, the parent who has physical custody of the child spend the most on the kid because the money the father gives is usually spend on food phone bill, Internet, electricity and it's can even pay for a decent housing to live with the children.Wake up and smell the coffee before you start complaining.
2006-07-23 01:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not always true, but primarily it is the women at a) The children either choose to stay with as primary carer and choose to see their dads every weekend or every second week or b) it is carefully researched and found that the woman is more capable of being the primary carer.
As I sid, it's not always that way. A lot of dads get sole custody if mums are drug addicts, unemployed, have been abusive or are otherwise seen as unable to care correctly for their children
2006-07-23 00:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman in divorce does not get the child as a matter of rule, but as a matter of convenience for the sake of the child depending on its age and sex. If it is an infant, naturally, the child can not be separated from the mother. If it is a female child the consent of the child at a stage when she is capable of giving consent is obtained as to where she would like to stay. It all depends on the given facts and circumstances, there is no hard and fast rule.
2006-07-23 00:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, there are many women out there who use their kids to get back at their ex-husbands and being with the the mother is not always the best option. If the father wins custody there usually a compelling reason, it's 'what's wrong with the mother' as opposed to 'what's right with the father'. The system should be less adversarial and more fairer...
2006-07-23 00:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by grandma punk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the reasons why they 'generally' give parental responsibility to the mother, but I do think it should be split 50/50.
With regards to everything else (ie. house, money, possessions, etc) it should be favoured to the innocent party in the divorce. My Ex-wife cheated behind my back for a year with no remorse or even hiding the 4 guys from my kids. If it wasn't for my lawyers she would have got the house that I bought myself before we'd even met!
2006-07-23 04:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Treat Infamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..i dont think its fair for the woman to automatically usually be thought of as the more responsible person...they always seem to think that they're the right one in the divorce...and, bearing in mind im a girl, i agree with you! i think in a divorce, it should be a fair split of everything, and that the kids should choose who they live with, but that the other partner should be able to get fair access to their children.
2006-07-23 04:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the woman can raise the children , while the man usually is busy with work or fooling around
2006-07-23 00:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋