My Sister defended my older brother who was giving us hell, he took money from us and nearly drove us out of our house, if it hadn't been for me, this brother would have made me and my sister life hell, in the end I envolved the authorities and, brother has now left us alone, On a argument with this sister one day she said that I drove this brother away, and informed the authorities and that I wanted to do this to her. Any way the question is when she starts moaning to me again about how the brother treated her badly and that we should not have any contact with him, how shall I reply to her, shall I ignore her and look at her for a few seconds or shall I give her a good answear.
2006-07-23 00:35:19 · 9 answers · asked by nicecupofteanicecupofcoffee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her what you did and why then remind her what she said to you. Tell her she can't have it both ways she either respects your decision or she doesn't, theres no chopping & changing.
Then put it behind you and both of you promise to never mention it again
2006-07-23 00:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all it's not good to be apart from your brother just because he behaved like that...and try your best to reform him as he is a brother too and not an outsider...and always try to have good bonds with your brother and sister...
Your answer to your sister is to let her know that u and your sister should try and change your bother's attitude...After all the three of you are siblings and it's common that fights do happen between them but at last they get together..
Mend your relationships right away and u can do it better by forgetting the past and forgiving everyone for everything...good luck
2006-07-23 01:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk about how you both are really feeling and yes give her a good answer it is never easy to take a stand against loved ones and if u have the belief it's the behaviour and not the person u don't like love then it's even harder be supportive and maybe counselling would help good luck
2006-07-23 00:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apply the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would like done to you. The meaningful gaze is as far as you should take it. That way, at least you are not contributing to the situation.
2006-07-23 00:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that enabling your brother to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior and not requiring good behavior does great harm to him and to you. Why, because it convinces him that he can continue to abuse people. That's a terrible, terrible lesson to teach anyone, anytime. It's bad for your sister because it lets her continue in the belief that a person's behavior can be corrected without discipline. Thank you for doing what you did. You did a good job.
2006-07-23 00:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows what bro did and there is nothing you can say to her, she wont listen. If she says something just say, thats you opinion and dont fight with her about it, she may be baiting you, she may just want to fight. Best thing to do is walk away.
2006-07-23 00:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and explain to her whats gone on, and how you feel about it all, you have by the sound of it lost your brother, don't lose your sister aswell.
2006-07-23 00:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't want to hear anymore about this, it's over and done with and you had to do what you had to do. Dwelling on it is not going to solve anything.
2006-07-23 00:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she may secretly have a bond with him but he doesent like to show i know this may sound crazy but SPEAK YOUR OWN MIND TO HIM OR TELL HIM YOU CARE BECAUSE HE MAY FEEL GEALOUS OR UNLOVED PLEASE TELL ME IF IT WORKS!P.S STICK UP FOR YOURSELF PLZ TRY!
2006-07-23 00:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋