I've asked questions like this before, but I didn't include enough details about us and the circumstances.
There's this guy at my work whom I'm interested in. I'm into him mainly because he seems like a very nice, smart, hardworking guy. I know that he's single for sure, otherwise I wouldn't be interested in him. We've rarely spoken, but I believe he he may be interested in me too because of some signs he shows. For instance, he says hello to me in a nice soft way with a great looking smile, when we pass by each other I sometimes see him look back at me, his eyes kind of light up when he sees me coming towards him, and he smiles at me a little longer than he does with other girls. However, these little signs doesn't fill me with enough confidence that he likes me.
2006-07-22 23:53:34 · 7 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know some of you are thinking, "If he really likes you, he would've asked you out already." Well, this guy seems shy and a bit insecure and we rarely get a chance to talk. He seems like the type of guy who wouldn't want a girl to know that he likes her if he wasn't sure if she likes him, too. He just seems like he would be too shy to ask a girl out.
2006-07-22 23:53:50 · update #1
I don't know if I should consider making any moves on this guy because I'm not totally sure that he likes me. Normally if I like a guy, I would try to have conversations with him before making a move to get to know him better, to see if he likes me and to find out if we're compatible. But in this case, it's difficult because most of the time we have different work schedules. When we do work in the same hours, there's rarely an opportunity for us to talk because we work in different sections of the store that are far apart and obviously because we're too busy working.
2006-07-22 23:54:08 · update #2
I have a few questions:
What indications would tell me that this guy feels the same way I do about him, if he's a shy person and we rarely get a chance to talk?
Should I just stop worrying about having conversations with him and quit trying to find out if he likes me for sure because of our different schedules?
Should I let him know that I like him by telling him that I find him attractive and wait for him to make the first move or should I just approach him first and ask him out?
If I should make the first move, where, when, and how should I do it?
2006-07-22 23:54:25 · update #3
I'm quitting this job in about a month so I'm not worried about anything interferring with work.
2006-07-22 23:55:58 · update #4
Can you tell me your age and when you started dating? Thanks!
2006-07-23 00:06:07 · update #5
ok wow very informative i like that. it can help u out way better with all this detail. so yeah i think from what u wrote he is a shy guy and he has no courage to go to u and ask u either for a number or just to do something. u c shy guys i know them well when i was young i was. so i know the feeling when u c a girl and want to say something to her but u cant. its really sad how many i let pass by. now u would go up to him but u dont know if he really digs u. sure he could be smiling just to be nice. all guys do that but if ur sure he eyes light up then he does. shy guys dont have confidence so he migh think ur to good for him.so the only way is well has to be u. u need to get ur confidence and go to him and just tell him very gently that u would like to do something. he might be all quiet but its shock. im sure he dreamt bout this. u need to take chances if u really want something. then what if antother girl gets him. ur going to wonder what if i approached him 1st. so u like the guy and he likes u. im sure u have high confidence right so go 4 it.so what if he works far from u we all have days off and can do something after work. no matter how late u got 24hr resteraunts. so there is no excuse for time. theres always time u need to ask urself how bad do u want to know if this guy likes u. then go and do it. u know what be kool to blow him a kiss i seen a girl do that to a shy guy and he turned all red lol. try that but u need to make the move he wont. u said hes attaractive well im sure ur not the only one who thinks that so dont let someone snatch him.just confidence ask him and c what happens. at least u will know.good luck
2006-07-23 00:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by SLICK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hope I can help out. I'm pretty much exactly like the guy you are talking about. I have never and probably will continue to not approach girls. I believe if a girl is interested in me, she will make an effort. I've dated a ton of girls and find that the best ones to date are the ones who approach me because I know they are attracted to me. I cannot understand girls, so I think that's the main reason I don't approach them. Plus, it's a huge turn-on if they approach me! I've also had many relationship problems with girls, so I don't make an effort to get to know them.....unless they approach me. In your case, I'd say GO FOR IT!!!! Start off casual, get to know him. Ask him what he likes to do, what he thinks of work, why he's so shy....haha! But yeah, definitely approach him and get to know him, you don't have anything to lose, do you?
2006-07-23 00:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by i_am_tweeber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the initiative.
nice guys often don't push for a girl
when you see him make some excuse to talk and then arrange a coffee together.
Just chat about work stuff and then ... ask if he has a girlfriend ...
hopefully he will say "no" .. so you can then admit to not having a boyfriend but thinking he is cute.
If he does have a girlfriend .. give him some good girl-stuff pointers and just be a friend.
2006-07-23 00:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. first, im male first time answerin this question. 2d, i began truly courting even as i replaced into 16. now im 22. ok now. purely because ur quittin, doesnt propose u might want to make drastic strikes to illustrate ur thoughts. its no longer the top of the international =) make certain though, if ur leaving. on account that he's shy, ask him to pass to lunch w/ u. if he says no or he too busy, then per chance he no longer that in contact. yet when he's willin to make the attempt, dats the proper time to get to understand one yet another and probably ull see if u truly like him or no longer. and pass on from there ok?
2016-10-15 02:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you love him, be bold, just go ahead and tell him. Have confidence. You need a love of confidence when you express yourself. Maybe a cafe parlour will be fine where you can talk. Good Luck.
2006-07-22 23:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Vishnu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if he would enjoy a cup of coffee or a soda after work to unwind and that you like him to join you for some conversation - in other words just ask him out, but make non-threatening or intimidating.
2006-07-22 23:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by L A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's the type of guy who waits for the girl to make a move first...just call him cute,tell him he looks hot on the shirt he's wearing, show him that you like him,show him that you think he's handsome,let him know you're attracted to him!
2006-07-23 00:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋