Everyone knows guys just want sex whether they love someone or not.
2006-07-22 22:15:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's interesting that in your question you put the word "should". I don't think it's matter of "should", but more a matter of what is good and right for you. I am not concerned about what your boyfriend wants, and believe me, in this issue, it will be best, if you will think only of yourself. Why do I say that? Because for women, sex is a big deal and especially for the first time, really extremely important. I don't want you to feel bad and get hurt the first time so it's important that the first time (whenever it is) be the right time and with the right person. I am not necessarily talking about marriage.
You could ask yourself do you really want to have sex at your age with this boyfriend who you think you love. Are you sure that he loves you too (deeply, sincerely, strongly)? Is he committed to you?
You could ask yourself why you are thinking about this question now. Has your boyfriend pressured you about having sex? Does he speak about leaving you or seeing other women if you don't have sex with him? You are right - men want sex whether or not they love the women they are with.
My feeling is that unless you are absolutely certain that your boyfriend is the right person and that you feel not only that you can handle this intense experience, but that you will feel better and not worse with this experience, then you can go ahead. However, if you have any doubts about having sex, please wait.
2006-07-22 23:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by happy inside 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl....It seems that you and I are in the same boat. I am about to be 19 and I am still a virgin. All I am going to tell you is that when you first decided to make love, you have to make sure that this person is the right one. In my opinion having sex with a friend is very risky because you may wanna move up a notch from friendship and he may not want that. Just make the right decision and good luck to you!!!
2006-07-23 19:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's a very good thing that you're still virgin at 18. most girls give it up too easily as if it has no value at all.
honestly, i dont think that your boyfriend is worth your virginity. the only man worth giving that precious thing away is your future husband. i know that you've heard this so many times..but it's just because this is true.
you know what, you dont just give your virginity away to whomever guy you meet. he has to be worthy; he has to be the RIGHT ONE for you. God has raised up and set apart a man completely for you--and this man will love you and respect you not because of what you can give him but simply because of who you are.
you deserve to be respected and loved. premarital sex is not the expression of TRUE LOVE at all--it just means that the guy didnt care enough and didnt love the girl enough to wait until they get married. its an act of recklessness; of selfishness. and true love is not selfish at all. if he even asks you about having sex with him, that only means that he doesnt really care about you. i know he might fool you into doing it with him or even say sweet things about you that can melt your heart, but im trusting that you're smarter than this. that you will not allow any guy to get this very precious thing away from you so prematurely.
all the guys you meet NOW will not be worth giving it away, ONLY your husband is worthy. and only THE RIGHT MAN is worthy. in God's perfect time, you will eventually meet this guy and when he comes, i can assure you that every moment you spent waiting for him will be all worth it.
just you wait...because you are worth waiting for.
2006-07-23 07:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. only if youre ready. im 18 as well and still a virgin. but life is no different for me than anyone else. im happy and waiting for the right time. you dont have to have sex to fit in. remember that. you should have friends who like you based on who you are not what you do. if he cant respect you for that then hes not the right guy for you.
2006-07-23 05:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by dirkn06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the question there is if she loves you? if i were you dont do it..still a virgin is not acceptable reason to do that thing....you just only wasting your time with that and if you'll do that you will ruin your life
2006-07-23 05:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. When you're sure you won't need to ask. Also, if this doesn't turn out to be the experience you wanted, you'll resent him for that and you can kiss your relationship goodbye...
2006-07-23 05:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him a lot n want to have intercourse n r sure
2006-07-23 05:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by tanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are ready! Are you sure he loves you as much as you love him? Be wise...it's about you and what you want, not what he wants. Maybe you are not ready yet, and if he loves you, then he will wait. Do as you feel!
2006-07-23 05:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by me-sama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I gave each other our virginity as a wedding present. It avoided so many problems others face.
2006-07-23 05:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait, I regret having sex before I was married. Even though I loved the person at the time the fact is it will never feel as good as making love to your husband. please WAIT!!
2006-07-23 05:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋